Unsolicited Guests - yet again.

cocojack10

Now the wife FB'ed me and told me "she wants to come visit... it's been a long time."  How can people have the face to invite themselves to sleep at one's house? 

I am so private, I hate to impose.  I've never had a guest room (growing up) b/c my parents are the same way.  We were never allowed to have sleepovers.  Everytime this couple decides to come down to MIA, they feel the need to stay at our house.  GGGGRRRR   I'm not telling DH that way he doesn't set a date w/ the husband.

Plus, DH is going to have a guys trip soon and his friend will be there... so they'll get their fix, hopefully.

alengirl

Hi Jackie!  I think you need to set everyone straight, including your DH, that this is not what you signed up for.   Explain how them coming over invades your privacy and free time that you work hard to enjoy. You shouldn't be burdened with this situation every couple of months.   Tell the wife on FB, that you'd love to see them but due to a family problem you had a while back, they cannot stay at your place.... inventa un historia about someone else that wanted to stay and some family drama and that they cannot stay - end of story.   Make sure to tell your DH, so that he backs you up.  Good luck

jojuan

Wow that sucks. I can't invite myself to anyones house i always have too look for something, i just feel bad doing that even when people are okay with it.

My mom was the same way i couldnt sleep over anywhere but my friends were able to stay over.

cocojack10

alengirl:

Hi Jackie!  I think you need to set everyone straight, including your DH, that this is not what you signed up for.   Explain how them coming over invades your privacy and free time that you work hard to enjoy. You shouldn't be burdened with this situation every couple of months.   Tell the wife on FB, that you'd love to see them but due to a family problem you had a while back, they cannot stay at your place.... inventa un historia about someone else that wanted to stay and some family drama and that they cannot stay - end of story.   Make sure to tell your DH, so that he backs you up.  Good luck

Hey girl!  Good to see you here!  You've been missed.  Hope you are feeling better.

Last time, I tried to talk to DH calmly and explain why I am so uncomfortable.  I can understand his point... it is a friendship from HS and he doesn't want to lose it.  I suppose I'm not too opposed to the husband staying over... it is the wife that bothers me, and she bothers my DH too.  But there is nothing we can do... in order for him to see his friend, we all have to put up w/ the wife.  ::sigh::

Let's just hope they doesn't bring the kids (3) too!

Wife2DJ

But them not staying at your house should not affect their friendship. I think it is insane the amount of people you constantly get..poor girl I don't know how you do it.

Ceventa

Wife2DJ:

But them not staying at your house should not affect their friendship. I think it is insane the amount of people you constantly get..poor girl I don't know how you do it.

I agree with Yocy, you have been really nice about putting up with these people in your home. If DH insists on them staying with you, then you guys need to make a compromise to limit the times they come because it's just too much.

JennyLo26

Oh no! So sorry Jackie! Get rid of that guestroom! lol.

I say you tell your DH that you are thinking of chaning the look of the room and get rid of the guest bed! lmao. jk