WWYD - 2nd for today

futuretworf

Please bare with me here on this post as I really do not know where else to turn.  DH and I have been together for over 3 years and have been through a bunch of tough times already.  Well, we work on different hours of the day - I am up early in the AM and he stays up way into the night.  The problem is that it is affecting our sex life.  I know I am embarrassed about this and do not know what to do.  We have no reason to be "careful" because I have had my tubes tied and there are no babies in our future.  That does not help things.  The only time we have to be intimate really is on the weekends and Saturday's are gone with me getting up early to take my DS to swim practice and all that BS. 

I had a very sexless marriage to my DS's father and I cannot go through that again.  What do I do???  Is it just us or does everyone not have sex every night of the week.  I am at a loss ladies and I am so embarrassed to have asked this.

Off I go with me hanging my head down in shame ..... 40 years and no sex life

Tonys_Bride_2_B

ok first of all you don't have to hang your head in shame.  Second of all... you don't have to have sex every night of the week to have a great sex life.  What is most important is that you are happy.  Don't fall into the I'm a newlywed I should be having sex everynight of the week or I am a failure bs. 

OK I have lots more to say, but I have to be ready to leave in 15 minutes and I'm no where even close.  I'll either respond or email you later.  If you need to vent more you can email me. 

Tonys_Bride_2_B

That was well said... basically Kim I don't think you should fret too much.  If you want it more talk to you DH and figure out a plan... a way that you can be intimate in a way that is satisfactory to both of you.  Hope you are feeling better about things today. 

m+j

I agree with everyone else.  We don't get to have sex as often as we like because of work, sleeping, working out, etc.  We just always make time on the weekends, either in the morning or at night, that way we get it in at least 1-2 times a week.  Like fall said, I know of no one who is married and does it every night!