Why we do need our own board...

brown_bride07

Okay- I know this is silly but on the "family matters" board they talked about what people call their inlaws and how almost all of them call them by their first name.
I know some of us do- but am I the only one that doesn't call my ILs by their first name?

Mrs. T. Blount

First name?!? Yea right. I would get my mouth popped by my mom and his mom would not like me at all.

The way I was raised I just would not feel right calling someone old enough to be my parent by their first name. Respect your elders, is how I was brought up.

Shortie28

First name?  No.  I always just called her "The Devil"

itsmesenam

SHORTIE....
I almost spit  my water all over my computer screen!
You know you wrong for that one but I LOVE IT!
I think I'll like it over here!

Shortie28

Girl, she just proved my point by wearing a red dress to the wedding.  She had her big ol' Tina Turner wig too...I almost smacked her!

Tammy L

I'm the master of avoiding having to say someone's name.  Mainly because I normally forget them, so I normally just pull that one around the IL.  Though I will do Mr/Mrs firstname.

My family told him to call them what I call them but he uses mom and sister.

aml&jle

That's too funny because my supervisor (who's  black) was talking about her son's gf (who is white). She was saying that she wasn't sure if she liked her yet. She said "that girl is not going to be coming in MY house and call me by my first name!".

I think it's definitely a cultural thing because even though I'm an adult now I still feel  like I have to say Mrs whoever to most elders.

ibot4291

I call my mil by her first name. It doesn't mean I don't have any respect for her because I do. That's what I have always called her and we get along just fine.

durhambride

It is all about how you were raised, I know in my household my mom has always stressed to me at a young age that ANY elder you always address them as Mr. or Mrs. and that lesson has always stuck with me to this day.

My mom would pimp slap me with no powder if she knew I was calling any elder by there first name.

sldandridge

I love the responses...'pimp slap w/o any powder'... It's so very true!!! Now I do call MIL 'Ma' but only because she asked me to, otherwise it would be Ms. B.

Oct1907_bride

In some cases its about how you were raised and in other cases its the comfort level that you have with the parents.

My DH calls my mother mom... however, he calls my Dad my his first name...but that's the relationship that my father has fostered with both his son-in-laws. 

I don't call my MIL anything.  Not that we don't get along...but I just don't really talk to her that much. Before we were married I called her Mrs. S. But I think she wants me to call her mom now...but I don't really feel that "close" to her.  She doesn't really talk to me that much...she filters everything through my DH.  Where my mother just picks up the phone and calls my DH when she wants to talk to him or has a question.