Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
If you have questions about this, please email help@theknot.com.
Thank you.
Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
Broken Heart
Hello,
I wanted to reach out to this board, because you are all such a great group of people and I just really need a sense of community right now.
My partner of almost 4 years and wife of only 5 months and I are separated. I know why I'm here, I know where we went wrong, and I know what it takes to fix it. My heart is so broken and so filled with hope at the same time. The problem is, is that she is not sure she wants to work on our marriage, and I feel like I could die. My body is cold, and I can't breath, my heart is beating so hard I can hear it. I'm trying to work and I can't concentrate because all I can think about is how much I love her and miss her and miss our home and our family and our life.
I'm reaching out to my friends and my family, but my heart cannot find rest and peace. I have seen a counselor and will continue to, but unfortunately I won't be able to see her again until the 16th because she's on vacation.
What do I do? What do I do if she doesn't want to be with me anymore? I can't bear the pain, I just can't stand it.
Re: Broken Heart
Oh I'm so sorry for your heartache. I believe that everything happens for a reason, so maybe she just needs some space to think. Have faith in yourself and try to have faith that your love for each other will prevail. I know it's hard and Sandy and I both offer you some long distance hugs.
Take care of yourself and be strong...
I'm so sorry to hear this news. One of the things I try to remind myself in difficult situations is that the only person/thing i can control is myself. You cant control what her ultimate decision will be, but you do have power and strength over your emotions during this tough time. surrounding yourself in support is a great way to go. Please be kind to yourself and no matter what, keep your chin up.
Blogs: Our Growing Family - CT Working Moms
I'm so sorry to hear you are in so much pain. Thank you for reaching out to us-- we will always be here for you!
All I can say is that when things get rough, sometimes it helps me to shorten my horizon. When I feel like I'll be immobilized with sadness forever, I remind myself that all I really need to do is get through this one day/ one hour/ one minute.
It's a crappy time to not have easy access to your counselor, but remember there are help lines available if you want to talk to other counselors. Also, your counselor might have a "back up" available when she is on vacation-- you could try calling her number and seeing if there is an outgoing message with instructions for contacting that person.
Hang in there; we'll be sending good vibes your way!
IUI #3 gave us the best 2nd anniv. gift ever: 2 babies! (born 03/09/10)
Peanut and Little Man are getting so big! 2 years old already!
finally blogging again at This Will Be: An Adventure
I am so sorry you are experiencing such sadness. You will get through this no matter what the outcome. Does journaling work at all for you - maybe writing the things you wish you could share with your counselor. I did a TON of that in the past about relationship stuff and it really paid off. Be gentle to yourself and keep posting....we're here to be supportive.