Questions for all you ladies?

Nondairy Lady

So I was wondering if  you think it strange/ unhealthy that DH and I  don't want kids for at lest 8 years.  Is that normal?  We have been together for 5 years and married for almost 1.  I have been getting flack from our married friends that that is way too long to wait.  I am only 24 so I feel that I have a lot of time.  We miscarried when  we had been together a year so we are a little concerned about our future pregnancies.  Any input you ladies have would be awesome.    I have been getting flack from our married friends that that is way too long to wait.  I am only 24 so I feel that I have a lot of time.

Kelly512

there is no set timeline for having children.  whenever you and dh are ready is the right time.  you are going to get flack from everyone since you have been married a year and that seems to be when people start.  I have a friend who has been married five years and doesn't have any children yet,  she is getting flack from her mother though.  you are ready when you ready, no matter what anyone says.

books4brooke

I have the exact opposite problem.  I've always known that I wanted kids... and a lot of them.  My dad especially doesn't understand that, and he thinks that we should wait 5-10 years to start (late 30s he says).  I think as long as you are emotionally ready, are somewhat financially stable, and have a solid relationship, there is no "right" time to have (or not have) kids.  I always try to remember when I get those comments though that others are speaking from their frame of experience, which is often very different from mine.  And then I just let it roll off... they aren't in my shoes and fortunately don't have to live with my choices!!

brideinboise

 I don't think that it is weird at all. I think that people are ready when they are ready and things happen at a different pace for different people. Don't give into what other people tell you. You and your DH will know when the time is right for the both of you.

Good Luck!

MrsZubterfuge

You have plenty of time. My parents were married for 10 years before they had their fist child. When you marry young, you have the luxery of waiting. I'm only 25...

yayclouds

 Seems like all our friends are popping them out. lol DH and I don't even know IF we want kids. Right now our marriage motto is: "NO BABIES!" Whenever we start thinking "maybe..." we go to the mall, or a restaurant during the family hour and when we see all those crying, screaming kids we give each other a knowing glance and mouth "No babies."  Maybe I will change my mind, and IF we happen to get pregnant then of course it will be a blessing. But for now, we are happy not wanting our family of 2 to get any bigger... and we just celebrated 4 years of marriage/8 years of being together!