Sometimes parents suck!!!

PrincessDi80

Today was a hard day at work for me

We had a treatment team meeting for one of my residents and it went so horribly all I wanted to do was give the teenager a HUGE hug and adpot him, he spent 30 minutes afterwads in my office on the brink of tears.  He is supposed to be discharged at the end of June, but the treatment team is really worried about his discharge because his mom is currently residing in a shelter (evicted from her apt in Nov) and has done NOTHING to secure stable housing in preparation for his discharge.  She NEVER visits him or calls him, he only speaks to her when I allow him to call her at work from my office and she is denying the remainder of his home visits.  All of this emotional crap has defeated my resident and his behavior is out of control becuase of it.  Sometimes parents are so clueless to how their behaviors impact the emotional stability of their children and it makes me sick!

smd8.14.04

I don't get how clueless parents can be. ?It can be heartbreaking.

Steffie17

What a thing to deal with. Sometimes parents just don't get it.

jordanm

It sounds like you have a very difficult job.  I think I would be feeling the exact same way.  Hopefully your efforts will help to make the kid a better person. 

5/5/07-i-do!

Speaking from experience- they don't give a crap about anyone but themselves.  You need to be a certain age or IQ to do a lot of things yet giving life is something that any a**hole can do.  In fact there are millions of people that push out dozens of kids that have no business having one.  Then you have the people that try and try and would do nothing but love and raise a child amazingly that can't have kids..... I hate the world sometimes.  Sorry you had a tough day hope tomorrow is better for you.

alyssak

sorry you had such a tough day

I deal with some sucky parents too - sometimes I feel that people should have to pass a course or something to become a parent. It is so not fair what they do to their children. Some kids I work with barely have a shot at life, just because of the parents they were born to. So sad

nigoleta

I just had this convo with my mom (a HS teacher) a couple of nights ago. Every year, there are about five or six students she wants to adopt! She still keeps in touch with a lot of her former students and has really helped a lot of them out (to the best of her ability). Working with troubled kids is definitely difficult, emotionally-wrenching work, even more so when when parents, who are supposed to be the kids' #1 advocates, flake out on them. Ugh.

msg

I give you lots of credit for doing the job that you do. I am sure some days are heartbreaking and the difference you make in the lives of these people is tremendous. When parents act like this, it is awful. I know that my own parents can sometimes be like this; luckily they chose to act like selfish a**es when I got older. Now I feel like I have to be the parent. Thank goodness for my husband and his family or else I wouldn't know what to do most days. I can't imagine how it must be to be a teenager and have your parents act like this. I hope that this boy has other people in his life who show him their love and support. He is lucky to have you there to help him.

EMERALDEYEZ13

they do suck. I used to do a similar job, I was horrified at the way parents treated their kids. No wonder they end up in trouble, with mental health problems, emotionally unstable and angry. You should have to pass an IQ test and parenting class in order to breed!