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Married Life Poll
Who does the dishes?
Who cooks?
Whose family do you spend more time with?
Are you happy with the "my family/your family" balance?
Do you fight more/less now than you did a year ago?
Do either of you fight dirty?
When you're fighting, do you go to bed angry or stay up to work it out?
What is your favorite thing to do together (not between the sheets)?
How many X's a week would he like to make whoopie?
How many X's a week would you like to make whoopie?
Are you close to either person's magic whoopie number?
Knowing what you do now, what one piece of advice do you wish you'd been given 2 years ago?
Re: Married Life Poll
Who does the dishes? Usually Greg (I only sometimes help.)
Who cooks? Typically it's a joint effort with me running the show and him helping out. He does cook probably 4-6 times a month where I don't help at all, though.
Whose family do you spend more time with? His
Are you happy with the "my family/your family" balance? Yes... I'd like to take my family out even more because it causes stress on both of us.
Do you fight more/less now than you did a year ago? Less, definitely.
Do either of you fight dirty? I don't think so... sometimes we snap at one another, but we're usually pretty good about apologizing now and we watch what we say so it's not hurtful (or if it is, it's not unjustly so.)
When you're fighting, do you go to bed angry or stay up to work it out? We RARELY go to bed angry - I think we've done it maybe 3 times and then it's worse the next day. LOL
What is your favorite thing to do together (not between the sheets)? Go to baseball games or the movies.
How many X's a week would he like to make whoopie? 3-4
How many X's a week would you like to make whoopie? 3ish
Are you close to either person's magic whoopie number? Not quite... slow improvement.
Knowing what you do now, what one piece of advice do you wish you'd been given 2 years ago? I don't know that any advice would've helped me - I knew it would be hard and it has been. But each challenge/obstacle is something we have learned to work together through and it makes us get to the next step in our marriage.
Who does the dishes? Both of us, but me more
Who cooks? Me. DH grills
Whose family do you spend more time with? DH's
Are you happy with the "my family/your family" balance? For the most part, yes, but sometimes I get annoyed with him wanting to stop by his parents all the time because they live close by.
Do you fight more/less now than you did a year ago? Less. A year ago we were selling a house, buying a house and moving. It was stressful.
Do either of you fight dirty? No, we try hard to talk things out.
When you're fighting, do you go to bed angry or stay up to work it out? We have gone to bed angry and I hate it.
What is your favorite thing to do together (not between the sheets)? Take a bath together and talk
How many X's a week would he like to make whoopie? 5
How many X's a week would you like to make whoopie? 4-5
Are you close to either person's magic whoopie number? Yes, mainly because we are TTC
Knowing what you do now, what one piece of advice do you wish you'd been given 2 years ago? To stop taking my BC much earlier than I did. I wish I had known that my body was going to need so long to regulate my cycles.
Who does the dishes? Me most of the time
Who cooks? We take turns but usually me and MH grills
Whose family do you spend more time with? Mine just because all of MH's family lives in other states
Are you happy with the "my family/your family" balance? No...I wish we could spend more time with his family but that's not always possible
Do you fight more/less now than you did a year ago? I'd say less. There was lots of fighting last year while MH was getting his MBA and we rarely saw each other
Do either of you fight dirty? No
When you're fighting, do you go to bed angry or stay up to work it out? MH would like to stay up to work things out but I'd rather go to bed...the next day I always regret it though.
What is your favorite thing to do together (not between the sheets)? Talk and go for walks
How many X's a week would he like to make whoopie? 4 or 5
How many X's a week would you like to make whoopie? 3 or 4
Are you close to either person's magic whoopie number? Now-no way. Before getting pregnant-Yes.
Knowing what you do now, what one piece of advice do you wish you'd been given 2 years ago? That it is possible to love MH even more now then I did the day we got married.
Who does the dishes? me
Who cooks? me
Whose family do you spend more time with? used to be mine, but now we don't spend time with either family much
Are you happy with the "my family/your family" balance? I guess
Do you fight more/less now than you did a year ago? more
Do either of you fight dirty? yes, we are both guilty
When you're fighting, do you go to bed angry or stay up to work it out? He will never just let things be he has to get things straightened out no matter what time of day it is or what we are doing before he will do anything else
What is your favorite thing to do together (not between the sheets)? we like to travel
How many X's a week would he like to make whoopie? once maybe unless its my "fertile" time
How many X's a week would you like to make whoopie? once if that
Are you close to either person's magic whoopie number? well last month we way over but since AF has been here for over 2 weeks we are nowhere near close
Knowing what you do now, what one piece of advice do you wish you'd been given 2 years ago? I don't know
Who does the dishes? Me.
Who cooks? Me.
Whose family do you spend more time with? Probably mine, even though they are further away. I've asked Blair about going to his Mom's for dinner but he doesn't want to go over there. I think she grates on his nerves.
Are you happy with the "my family/your family" balance? I guess. I would like to be closer to my family geography wise. Blair travels and works a lot and I end up spending a lot of time alone. I have a big family and there is always someone around.
Do you fight more/less now than you did a year ago? Less.
Do either of you fight dirty? Blair does. He is all about name calling and talking over me (or should I say yelling over my talking) and saying pretty hurtful things. I'm pretty mindful of this stuff, and there are times when he does push my buttons and I start spewing my own stuff. I always try to talk about things first.
When you're fighting, do you go to bed angry or stay up to work it out? Unfortunately, sometimes we do go to bed angry. We are in an argument right now, and while we say hello and goodbye to each other and kiss each other hello and goodbye we are both still annoyed with the other person.
What is your favorite thing to do together (not between the sheets)? We like doing puzzles, watching baseball, taking walks, going to the movies/watching movies. There's a bunch of things.
How many X's a week would he like to make whoopie? Lately, none. It weirds him out with my being pg. Although he wouldn't mind a bj a few times a week.
How many X's a week would you like to make whoopie? 2-3.
Are you close to either person's magic whoopie number? Right now, his.
Knowing what you do now, what one piece of advice do you wish you'd been given 2 years ago? Hmmm......I'm not sure. It's pretty much what I have expected and been told. Nothing has really been a surprise so far.
Who does the dishes? Me.
Who cooks? Me.
Whose family do you spend more time with? I would say its even since we live so so far away.
Are you happy with the "my family/your family" balance? No I wish we could see them more but nothing i can do about that.
Do you fight more/less now than you did a year ago? Less
Do either of you fight dirty? No not really.
When you're fighting, do you go to bed angry or stay up to work it out? Nick is notarious for wanting to go to bed angry and then the next day he wakes up and thinks everything is perfect without talking about it and um no then im usually really upset.
What is your favorite thing to do together (not between the sheets)? Watching baseball, take walks, museums, and we like fixing things up together like old furniture and etc.
How many X's a week would he like to make whoopie? 5
How many X's a week would you like to make whoopie? 3-4.
Are you close to either person's magic whoopie number? Every other day according to our dr so i guess my number.
Knowing what you do now, what one piece of advice do you wish you'd been given 2 years ago? The only thing we were surprised about is ttc taking so long. If we would have known this we would have started way earlier. Also we werent expecting to deal with the loss of a parent so early in.
Who does the dishes? Take turns, usually him though
Who cooks? Usually him
Whose family do you spend more time with? Mine
Are you happy with the "my family/your family" balance? Yes
Do you fight more/less now than you did a year ago? We had been getting a long a lot better, these past few weeks more though, but we are getting back to a better place
Do either of you fight dirty? I do sometimes, he doesn't (by dirty I mean I swear, etc)
When you're fighting, do you go to bed angry or stay up to work it out? If it can be worked out I like too, it can't always though
What is your favorite thing to do together (not between the sheets)? traveling
How many X's a week would he like to make whoopie? probably 3-4
How many X's a week would you like to make whoopie? 1-2
Are you close to either person's magic whoopie number? currently there is no number, we will get back there I'm sure though
Knowing what you do now, what one piece of advice do you wish you'd been given 2 years ago? ummm, That it isn't going to be easy but if you get through the hard parts sometimes it's worth it