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How do you feel about Handicapped Parking violators?
There has been a lot of talk in our local papers about people parking in handicapped spots and not "looking" handicapped. One of the letters posed this website. http://www.handicappedfraud.org/index.php
I always get so frustrated when I see people parking in handicapped spots without a permit.
What do you do? Would you say something to the person or maybe send in their plate number to this website?
Terri
Re: How do you feel about Handicapped Parking violators?
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If they have the permit to put in their window to park there, I don't judge on if they "look" handicapped or not.
MIL isn't in a wheelchair or anything, but has severe breathing problems due to a botched surgery years ago. She can't walk very far without getting completely winded. We've had people on several occasions make rude comments to her when I am out w/ her. I can see why they might not think she needs to park there- but if you have the permit it really isn't anyones business.
Now, parking w/out a permit just b/c you want a good spot, that gets me mad, but I would never open my mouth or report them. People are crazy these days...you could say something to the wrong person and get your butt kicked. Not worth it to me.
It does make me mad but I don't know that I would confront someone. I just get aggrevated and keep it to myself.
My BIL has a handicapped plate. He has a prosthetic from a below-the-knee amputation. If he's wearing pants, you would never know it. Unless you are looking for it, his limp is not noticable. Although a lot of the time there is no reason why he can't walk from a normal parking spot, he qualifies for a handicapped spot.
If someone doesn't have a permit displayed, I'll say something if I'm in the mood. If they do have a permit displayed, I MYOB and this is why...
My father fought cancer for three years. Up until about a few weeks before his death he really didn't "look" sick other than to those who knew him before his illness. To an outsider, he looked like a normal 60-something guy. But, the reality was that cancer was all throughout his bones (he often had more than one broken rib at any given time), the chemo and radiation robbed him of what little energy he had and he was on heavy-duty Rx painkillers just to make each day bearable. Walking long distances was very difficult for him. So, his DOCTOR got a handicapped permit for him.
Not once, but several times, people accosted us for not "needing" a permit and said those spaces were for people who were "truly" handicapped. We usually just ignored them and went on our merry way. We had the permit displayed, so there really wasn't much anyone could do.
Finally, about three weeks before my father died, we went to Home Depot. I drove, parked in the HC space and displayed the permit. A woman came up to us and was extremely nasty about us parking in the space and just wouldn't let it go. It was a very, very difficult time for us and her tirade was the last thing we needed at that point in time. My father just looked at her with a look of horror and disbelief and didn't say anything but I could see he was upset by it. I just looked at her and said "You have NO idea what our situation is. We have the permit, that's enough" and walked away while she was still ranting and raving.
Bottom line is nobody really knows what someone's situation is. So, if someone has a permit, I give them the benefit of the doubt. If they're really sick, then the last thing they need is someone hassling them.
I usually don't question it if someone has a permit; however, there's a woman who parked in our lot at work a couple weeks ago who flew into the parking lot, spun into a handicapped spot, threw the permit in the window, jumped out of her car & RAN into the building in 4 INCH stilletto heels.
THAT. I have a problem with. My coworkers & I have thought long & hard about what kind of handicap would allow you to park close to the building, but sprint in high heels... we can't come up with anything.
Our only guess is that she borrowed the car or the permit...
My dad is handicapped and has been since I was a teen and this is a sore spot with me but it is hard to determine who is or isn't even with the hanger or plate.
but my guess is like yours...she probably borrowed the permit hanger....
There was a girl on the 3rd tri board that was thrilled and thought she scored when she got a permit while pregnant just because she didn't want to walk far in the cold etc etc......she had no physical problems..
I edited to say that I was responding to pp who saw a woman running in heels....This new format had me confused: )
I think that you can't make assumptions based on the way people look. It's unfair, judgmental, and plain wrong.
My mom has a handicapped pass and doesn't look disabled unless you watch her very carefully. She has spent years trying to hide her limitations from the world, and she's done a good job of it despite being in chronic, severe pain. I would seriously go apesh!t on anyone who had the utter gall to say a word to her about it.
I do have a problem with people who use handicapped passes when they are NOT riding with their handicapped passenger. That is abuse of the system, and those people should be penalized. I think police should check the name on the pass and match it with who is in the car to make sure people aren't sneaking into these spaces unlawfully.
My mom had foot surgery (twice) for her bunions. Both times she was in a wheel chair for several months (her feed were really bad and really ugly). As soon as she was able to walk decently she stopped using her hc permit because she did not need to use it. Even if it meant her feet would be a little sore at the end of the day.
My biggest fear is that as more and more baby boomers age, and have injuries requiring hc sticker, permits, or plates there are not going to be enough hc parking spots for everyone.