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Who has SS wedding bios?
I'm a married hettie, but I love looking at your pictures. ?I find that unlike some bride and groom photos, both parties tend to look equally happy. ?=)
Thanks ladies! (and mayhaps some gents?)
And what the heck, if you have the time and don't mind sharing... how was your wedding experience? ?Parents supportive, are you "legal", do you/did you feel a change in your new life together??
Re: Who has SS wedding bios?
I've got one (link in siggy) if you'd like to check it out.
We were fortunate to have a very positive wedding experience. We had been dating for about 8 years when she proposed so by that time our families had come around to the idea and were fully supportive of our relationship. Our marriage is now recognized in CT but our wedding was in Aug of '08 and at that point CT only had civil unions, so we decided to have a private ceremony in MA to actually have a marriage license. Fortunatly CT has since changed its laws and as of October of last year the state recognized our MA marriage, and now issues its own SS marriages.
As for the change, we didnt really experience one....we had been living together for so long prior to the wedding that in our hearts and minds we were "married" long before 2008. The wedding did much more to solidify our relationship in the minds of our families and friends than it did ours - not that i regret it or it wasnt "worth it" - having a day to gather our loved ones around to celebrate the love we've been so lucky to share was amazing. Best day of my life!
Blogs: Our Growing Family - CT Working Moms
Blogs: Our Growing Family - CT Working Moms
I've been married simply forever (5 years in June), and never transported my bio over here, but I believe you can still get to it at this link:
http://community.theknot.com/cs/ks/user/default.aspx?UserName=leapgirl8
Our wedding experience - let's see. My parents are very supportive of our relationship (they LOVE Jen, and love us together), but I think they were somewhat confused that we were going to have an actual formal ceremony. We started planning (and had chosen venues, etc.) before gay marriage became the law in Mass., so I think it would be less of a thing for them now - there has been so much talk about gay marriage that people have come to expect that there would be some kind of ceremony, but that wasn't really the case at the time. So anyway, after they moved past that (quickly), it was all systems go and they paid for my dress and the wedding flowers, flew out to Mass., my dad bought a suit for the first time in 20+ years, and it was totally great.
Jen's family is conservative, especially her sisters and father. They came, but her sisters refused to take part in the ceremony (as readers), and her dad was clearly uncomfortable through the whole thing. Everyone behaved though. Her mom walked her down the aisle, and engraved champagne flutes for us, so that was nice. She is generally more comfortable with the idea of us.
We're legal. Our wedding date was planned for June 12, 2004 and the first gay marriages in Mass. took place on May 17, 2004. Good timing, no?
We moved to Washington DC in August of 2004 and we are registered as domestic partners here, because our marriage isn't recognized. DC just voted to recognize out of state gay marriages, but it still has to pass a second vote and be approved by the mayor and Congress before that will happen. The DP registration is mostly for emergencies and hospital visits - this way, we each have a piece of paper (we each keep a tiny copy in our wallets) from the DC government that we can show to any nurses, etc. who might be reluctant to allow visitation or medical decisions. We've never had to test that theory, knock wood, but I like the insurance.
Even though we lived together before marriage, I for sure felt a change. We went from being a very close couple to being a family. Jen is my priority now: she has to come first. Every decision we make, we make as a team. The day-to-day reality of our lives didn't change much, but for me, it's different. ?
Thank you, how kind! ?My ladies wore ivory and it was loverly.
?I had a brief moment of spazz about 3 months prior to the wedding where I thought I had designed more a toga party than a wedding party.. but in the end it was light and airy and beautiful.
The boys, on the other hand, were a mess. ?We rented from a bad location of a good company (does that make sense?) and each guy had a different black vest, except for the best man who got the same vest as my dad (NOT intended).. DH was the only one they got right. ?Luckily, I didn't realize anything the day of and only figured it all out when the pictures came back and by then I just had to laugh. ?Geez...
Now to peek at your day....?
http://rikki.jacobson.googlepages.com/marriedbio
There it is. Julie and I have been married for 9 months. (wow! time flies) We've been dating since I was 16, Julie was 20. We met in high school. Anywho, we got engaged when I was 17, and didn't tell anyone, until we moved out into our own place, and we immediatly mailed out saved the dates. We moved out in Sept. they were in the mail in November. :-)
We're pretty lucky our whole family was very excited, and I was even more fortunate that no one, gave us the 'your two you schpeel' they kept those thoughts to themselves, or it could of been the fact that mostly everyone in our families got married between 18 & 22. I'm not sure.
It came down to the fact that Julie and I loved each other, we were ready for that commitment. There have been challenges with being so young, and married, we'll tell that to anyone. We both struggle with balancing school, fulltime jobs, and time for eachother, but we'd rather go through it all together, than alone. We're happy with our desicion, and have loved everyminute of it. We've accepted that the age we got married at, is more unconventional, then being a married lesbian couple!
Overall, Julie and I are prepared to grow with each other, make all of our decisions together, and support one another, and end the end we'll live our lives together. We both love being married.
PS YOUR wedding was AMAZING!
-Rikki
I am like the grandmother around here.
I've been married just over 6 years. We dated for 2.5 years before getting married and knew each other for 8 before that (we were more acquaintances though.)
My parents came to the wedding, but had little input/interest during the planning phase. They never asked about anything and weren't really sure what to expect. They are pretty much okay with it now. Is it what they would have chosen? No. But it is a hell of a lot better than my divorced, drug addicted, unemployed cousins who've abandoned their kids! And they have a big picture of us at our wedding hanging in their house - so they are pretty out.
L's parents didn't come. They made an excuse about her dad having to work and never really commented on it after - actually I am not sure they've ever seen our wedding photos. Her parents are more of the - we're fine with you two, but we aren't going to discuss it. Of course now that we have children and they are forced out of the closet by that fact (before kids, they would introduce me as L's friend - now I am not sure how they introduce me - but it is pretty evident that we are both "mom" to our kids.)
We didn't really feel any different post wedding. We'd already merged finances, both been put on the title to our house, had wills and power of attorneys drawn up, etc. And since our marriage isn't recognized in DC (where we got married) or Maryland (where we live) it didn't give us any additional benefits. Life was really still the same. But it did show our family/friends that we were serious and committed in this for the long haul - and I loved having all of our friends together in one place to celebrate.
Wow. This got long. Gotta go get my kids back in their beds. Sigh.
Oh, and I would assume that my bio is still on the Knot after all of these years - under 2brides.
P.S. Your wedding was beautiful!
I have an old bio from my Knot profile:
http://community.theknot.com/cs/ks/user/default.aspx?UserName=jlknox
Our wedding was great! The experience was interesting. I never thought my DW would come up with such strong opinions and that was a bit of an adjustment for me. But we made some great compromises and I think we both ended up with something we loved.
Our parents were all really supportive. We are legally married because neither of us would settle for anything less. Luckily our home state of NY recognizes marriages from MA. I don't think much has changed in our relationship. If you asked my DW she would say she feels no different.
Also - thanks for stopping by our board. Please feel free to stop in and chat anytime.
Gorgeous location! ?Is that an operating inn? ?Looks like heaven on earth!?
I don't have my bio anymore but wanted to say your wedding was beautiful. Congratulations and thanks for stopping by our little corner of the world :-)
It's The Secret Garden Inn in Provincetown, MA. If you ever head out there I highly recommend staying there. It's not the fanciest or most spa like inn in P-town, but the owners will make you feel like it's your home. They will feed you, make you wonderful drinks, and overall just pamper you.
i have some in my knot bio, which is still up as far as i know. i have a couple of pictures in my nest bio, but only two or three.
we had a mixed experience. my family was very happy, and my parents were very involved--my dad walked me down the aisle, my mom helped both of us get ready, they paid for our rehearsal dinner and the reception hall rental. both of our sisters were in our parties. her parents had a hard time with it and chose not to come, which they've since expressed regret over, but her aunts and cousins all came. her brother and his wife did not come, and he told her that coming to our wedding would be like watching someone get murdered and doing nothing to stop it--all sins being equal and all.
we had a ceremony here that was not legal, then a ceremony in canada while we were on our honeymoon that was legal--although it is not recognized here, either. i don't know that i feel any different overall than i did before we got married (in part because for us nothing changed legally), but it definitely was a moving experience and affected both of us more than we thought it would.
I have no idea! How terrible is that?! Our jeweler is also my friend from high school. Once I fell in love with the wedding band he just brought out a line up of e-ring bands that would compliment and I loved the scroll work on mine, so that was that.