February 2009 Weddings
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Confessions
I know it probably hasn't been as long as it seems, but it seems like we haven't done this in awhile. So have at it!
Re: Confessions
I confess I'm miserable at my job. I like the people I work with and my office, I don't like the fact that I can get everything done in under four hours so I'm left spending at least half the day bored out of my mind. I try to keep myself busy, but it just seems that there isn't anything for me to do. I have been looking for a new job, but with unemployment over 10% here it's difficult.
I have baby on the brain, bad! DH and I talked about it and decided that I would stop taking BC right before our honeymoon (that happens to be when I'm done with the pack). Then we thought about it some more and decided I would just stop it after the current pack I'm taking. I'm so nervous and excited at the same time. I'm nervous about being able to carry the baby to full term, due to a medical problem. I feel like if we wait too long it will never happen. I'm also nervous about there being something wrong with the baby. I am also terrified that I will some how screw my kids up. I guess these are all legitamite fears that everyone has.
Im nervous about this test I have to take on Tuesday for a possible job. Ive taken it before and didnt pass it. I really need this job. Send prayers my way!
I have the baby itch BAD too! I have a doc appt on June 23 to get the ttc rolling. We decided that May 25 I will go off bc so my body can get used to not being on the ring. We are both VERY excited about it.
I confess that I have no desire at all to be helping out with my SIL's baby shower. I told them I would be a hostess, but now I wish I wouldn't have. It hasn't been too bad though. The shower is this Sunday and no one has anything planned for it!! haha so typical of the family. I"m still bitter towards them about what they did at my shower and just DH's sis in general. Oh well. I'm also not jumping up to volunteer to do anything for it. I'm waiting til someone tells me cause I honestly really don't care.
I confess that I like my second job better than my real job. I would love to get hired on through Estee Lauder and move up in that company. They have been around since the 50's and apparently is a wonderful company to work for. Ohhhh how it would be nice for makeup to be my life calling
I feel like a fat cooowwwww...mooo mooo. I've gone up a pant size since DH and I have met, but I feel fatter than that. I need to get this exercise thing into high gear. I really want to tone my stomach more than anything. I've never had a flat stomach (well in highschool) but I would love to have my belly button look more like the letter O than a fat oval....boooo
I confess that I am bored out of my mind at work lately (seems to be a common theme here, huh?). It's just a slow time and I know it will pick up again but, right now my mind is not being stimulated at all.
I confess that I HATE DH's job right now. He has been working such long hours that I hardly see him for an hour before bed. It's good that his company is thriving but, it is really screwing with our qulity of life. I spent 16 years of my life living by myself and having dinners alone, it's not supposed to be like that anymore. (I know I'm whining...sorry).
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I confess that I am getting kind of sick of my job also. I really enjoyed it in the beginning but I have been in the same position for two years and I would like more of a challenge.
Bkenan - what are you freaking out about?
That must be exciting for those of you TTC. I can't wait to hear when you all get the good news!
Shell- I will be able to answer that question after lunch.... until then I have to leave it in suspense..
I hate being alone all day. I hate that I have nothing I have to do. I wish I had a job because that would at least get me up and going, and once I'm on a schedule the rest of my life flows better. It's easier to manage time when a lot of it is taken up by a job (at least for me).?
I can't wait for the government to get off their lazy butts and send me my employment authorization.
?I haven't worked out as much as I wanted to this week. I went to the gym with a friend on Monday (she can bring a friend with her which is awesome) But, as much as I wanted to go for a walk since, I haven't been feeling well the last few days. I am trying to eat better, and I seem to be doing ok.?
I also have baby on the brain. I would love to have a kid soon, but i know that we need to get a few things done before that. it will definitely be a couple years before we even start trying. We need to get a house first, and I need to be working. ?
Jenny - can you find some volunteer opportunities to fill the time, maybe a nursing home or something?
Carrie - that is scary! I'm glad that it worked out and so hopeful for your upcoming opportunity!
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I think every woman worries about whether or not she will be able to raise her kids to be "normal", or if they will be born healthy. I worry about whether or not i will be able to raise my kids with good values/morals. I worry about whether or not i'll be able to keep my teenage daugther from being promiscuous..uhm i don't even have kids, and don't want them any time soon, but I worry about it. DH doesn't have exactly the same values I do, so i wonder how in the world are we going to keep our kids from having sex to young when he doesn't think its that big of a deal-----i was brought up with the understanding that sex is for marriage only....i did good till i started dating DH-he was the first person I ever had sex with. & I want to raise my kids with those same values, but OMG this world we live in, how can you? UGh.....
On to my confession, I have no motivation to do anything at work today, I am off tomorrow and I'm going to Daytona with a friend and I can't wait.
I also thought about giving away our puppy (ohhh shame on me!!!!), we are just gone alot and she has to stay in her crate when we are at work, and at night when we are in bed (she is not potty trained.....she refuses)....I don't want to give her away, and I won't, but the thought crossed my mind, and I felt bad, cuz she is so cute!
Carrie, I'm soo glad everythign workd out!!! I am excited about your interview too and what all you find out about that!!! 5 more days!
BKenan, you have my curiosity peaked!
Jenny, what Jen said would be great if you could find some volunteer stuff to do!! That would be fun!
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Sting, I have the EXACT same worries as you, especially for raising a daughter. I was raised the same as you. My boyfriends weren't even allowed in my bedroom. I can honestly say I've never watched a movie in my bedroom at my parents house with a boyfriend (well except for when they were out of town or something). But the world we live in is crazy, and I just hope that we do the best we can. DH says our daughter will not date til she's 40, but maybe all men are that way. I know he'll be super protective of her. LOL he knows what goes on in the mind of a teenage boy. I just hope that I am able to instill morals and values in them early on and they live by their own convictions. I hated my parents when I was in highschool, but in hindsight, i know why they did what they did and I love them for it now. With kids, parents may not always have the right or best answer, but if you just do your best or what you think is your best, all should be well.
I confess even though i've had a pedometer for weeks, i forget to put it on and I haven't used it once.?
I have plans to get rip-roaring drunk this weekend at the MS Pub Crawl (at least its for a good cause right?) but I'm a little worried my single friends will leave me... lame.
?I'm doing well at my new store, but I feel so stupid telling people I work at Wegmans, and being excited about moving up there. I have a BA (which I am paying a ton of $$ for) which I am not using because I can't figure out what I want to do when I grow up. And I miss having regular people hours and having off on Sat and Sun.?
Meg and Jen
I have thought about the volunteering thing, but a lot of places want a background check, and there aren't any places close to where we live. the bus system in this area really sucks and I can't take DH's vehicle every day. Once I get a paying job, it will be easier to afford a second vehicle and then I can pay for it myself.
Until I get my employment authorization and the other paperwork I'm waiting on, I can't even go to school (I need my masters if I want to keep teaching here) but I need to wait til I have the paper that says I am ?a permanent resident so I can go.
I'm just tired of all the waiting?
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Funny Enough...I was raised the exact same way sex is for marriage and thats it no questions.. Boys were never allowed in my room, we pretty much were not left alone at all. Having 2 older brothers that wasnt hard because they were very protective. Until I met Dh...then things changed I was a senior in HS..he has been the one and only guy I have ever slept will and will be the only one. I got pregnant knowing we would spend the rest of our lives together so did he. We talk about it all the time having a daughter.....his thoughts used to be she can do whatever I dont care...now they have totally changed. He is so protective and I am scared to death about her growing up in todays world when as kids in elementary school are sexual active! We just plan to be very honest with her and let her know of the limits and try our best to bring her and other children up in a supportive loving home.
Meg,
to teach in NY state you must get NY state certification (3 tests to take) within 2 years of the start of you teaching (I got this when I taught in NY city). Then, once you are certified you have 5 years to get your masters. I think they are flexible if you are working on it part time, but once you have it it does bump you up in the pay scale too.
I don't think I need it for private schools. But I would teach public. And with so many teachers having just been laid off (or given notices that their contracts would not be renewed) the job market here is going to be tight as it is, so people with their masters already will probably have an easier time getting hired. ?
I wanted to tell everyone why I was "freaking out" earlier. I came off BC pills last month for other reasons than TTC, but if it happens we wont care just are not planning to "try" right now. Well I was supposed to start on tuesday and I am never late except for the one time when I was, so I began freaking immediatly. Dh keeps telling me that this is ok and we will figure it all out. Well at lunch I took a test and its negative, but it still could be to early to tell. So right now I am torn and I feel bad about it. We have planned on TTC next summer so I can be almost done w/ school and Dh can be making some more money. but my thinking right now it what ever happens happens and we will take it either way.
Wow - so many confessions and comments today:) I feel like I am missing out here, but I DO like the fact that I am already being kept busy at my new job. Good luck everyone on your TTC endeavors, saving money, job hunting, etc.
I confess...
I feel horrible that I told my BFF that I can no longer go to the Kentucky Derby. While we've been planning it for almost a month, with finding out that my FIL has cancer and starting a new job, things are just too crazy to leave home and DH for that weekend. I thought she might be a bit more understanding because we hadn't spent any non-refundable money, but she was pretty upset. I think she still might find someone else and go. I am actually 100% okay with that, but I hope this doesn't affect our friendship. Any advice on something I could do to try and make it up? (I've already told her we'll still have a fun girls weekend this summer, but that didn't seem to help.)
Thom, I meant to page you yesterday to see how your new job is going!! I'm glad to hear that they are keeping you busy!!!
I'm soo sorry about the situation with your friend. I think maybe I would talk to her a bit more, explain your situation a bit more if she doesn't seem to get it. I would think she would understand but seem people react differently to things. Reassure her how much you still want to do something, maybe the two of you can go out to eat soon or something.