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MIL Vent (long)
I'm sure this will be the first of many. Evidently my blog is causing drama. H emailed me this morning and said he was looking at the blog and thought his mom may get upset b/c I mentioned that my mom bought us our glider and his aunt got us the hamper (I had posted updated pics of the nursery). I had already posted pics of the crib before - that's why I didn't mention it (his mom bought it for us). Well, then I come back from lunch and his mom emailed me. Evidently - she had already said something to H and he was trying to cover it up! Here is the chain so I dont have to type it all. I'm just frustrated b/c I know this is the beginning of - my family sees Jack more, blah blah blah. My parents live 10 min away and she lives 2 hrs away.
MIL:
Looking forward to seeing you guys this weekend!
Me:
I'm sorry about that. I dont really think too much before writing. the glider wasn't in the original pictures so I just mentioned that it was new and my parents gave it to us. I really didnt mean for anyone to feel left out and it wasn't done maliciously. I hope you don't think that I'm ungrateful for the gift. I've told all my friends and family that you bought us the crib.
MIL:
Re: MIL Vent (long)
WTF. This does not make sense to me :
I hope I don't seem petty, I didn't give you guys the crib for recognition on the internet. As far as I'm concerned, it's all cool
Obviously, it isn't all cool and you did want recognition bc you were so upset that you said something.
Gotta love MIL's. I think you explained it very well and I really think that there will be a competition between moms, particularly on the mother of the husband's side. I can totally see my MIL doing something like this.
You handled it very well! Your email back I took all of her worries away and made her feel petty for even bringing it up.
My MIL will be the bane of my exsistence when I decide to spawn.
Thanks. I just wanted to make sure I wasn't overreacting. Oh well - at least it gave me something interesting to complain about..haha. And H agrees that she's being a little too sensitive. Evidently she's been overly sensitive lately. Even though her and his dad have been separated for almost 4 yrs, I think his death sparked something in her and maybe she's just now realizing she's alone. I dont know.
I told my friends I'm going to post all the gifts I receive from my shower next weekend on the blog - and who got them for me. lol.
Ugh, I'm sorry that you have to put up with this. She's acting kind of petty.
I mean, they are YOUR parents and it is YOUR blog. I guess you need to put in 'equal' time if you don't want to upset her or hear about it. You handled it really diplomatically and probably made her feel like she's a basketcase for even mentioning it. LOL
Sorry Toni, at least it seemed like she got over it quickly. I def. think your on to something with her feeling very lonely since your FIL's passing.
I can't wait until Nat spawns and we get to hear about the MIL comments/gifts! "These diapers are for Mondays only! and no poos, only pees" Celebrating the birthdays four months late and what not.
Eva you made me snort!
She already told me I am to have a boy and then a little girl ten monthes to a year later.
Yea Nat - you may just want to become hermits and avoid everyone when you have kids. She is going to be crazy!
I seriously think part of the reason I dont want to go to Cape May this year is because I dont want to deal with both families wanting to see the baby. We usually stay with his mom, so she'll want us to stay there even though my mom's place is bigger. His mom has 2 bedrooms and a pullout couch. it's her, his sister and her husband and 2 kids. Where the heck will we stay? we'd have to kick one of them out of the room. My mom has an extra bedroom for most of the week. So that's already drama I forsee for the summer : )
My H's parents and my parents live in the same hometown. It is already an issue when we go up for holidays where we will sleep. I can only imagine how rediculious it will get when we have kids. Ugh...in-laws....
I think you handled that well.
I can empathize with all you ladies that have crazy MILs. And, I'm glad I'm not alone. I don't even want to think how mine will be when we have kids. My mom can't wait for grandkids but even before we got married I've heard my MIL say she's too young to be a grandmother. Not my fault she had my H when she was 18-19.
And the first question out of her mouth when her son told her we got engaged (6 yrs into the relationship, year after buying a house together ) was "She's not pregnant, is she?" Then I think she went into the I'm too young, you guys are young & should wait-you don't want kids right away. He'll be 32 this year and I just turned 29, we're not all that young & it's none of her business when we want kids.
One of the nearby developments was having a bunch of yard sales today so I bought a sign that says "I Kiss Better Than I Cook" and I plan on hanging it the kitchen before her next visit. It bugs her (a great cook) that her son enjoys cooking so does most of it and I don't.
Sorry I didn't mean to thunderjack your thread with such a long reply, but yeah, I can relate.
Toni-
your note back was a perfect response. ?hopefully she will feed of your positive attitute, and not be immature in the future. ?:)?