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what's best for the child? discuss
I watched Gone Baby Gone and without spoiling it, it's about a girl who is abducted from her family
it poses a question - what's best for the child?
1. Living with the abductors who love and care for her, encourage and support her, and provide an enriching and overall happy life for the child.
or
2. Living with her biological mother, a drug addict, who can't be bothered by her own child and leaves her alone to fend and care for herself. The girl receives very little (if any) support and love.
Re: what's best for the child? discuss
6/14/10 BFP; 6/30/10 Dx ectopic
11/16/10 BFP #2; DD born 7/26/11
working in a school with a 70% poverty rate and many underprivileged and neglected children this really hit home for me
I am always saying that some of these children don't even have a shot at life. The children aren't to blame. They can't pick the parents and situations they are born to. Most will wind up just like their parents and the cycle just continues.
While it obviously is wrong and illegal to abduct a child, I can see how it might be the better choice. By being loved and supported the child potentially could live a better and more fulfilling life than she could if she stayed in the drug infested neighborhood with her mother.
I agree with you both that neither is the best/right choice, but if you had to choose between the two..?
6/14/10 BFP; 6/30/10 Dx ectopic
11/16/10 BFP #2; DD born 7/26/11
I have had this thought so many times during my career.- Lots of people have children that 1) dont deserve them 2) do not have the ability to care for them properly 3) Do not provide love and support- Many times I have thought- that I wished someone could take the baby from these people. (I also think mandatory Birthcontrol for anyone under the age of 25 and anyone who doesnt have a high enough IQ (flame me if you want-Im completely serious), also anyone convicted of child abuse or neglect-should not be allowed to have anymore children.
Honestly as much as I think stealing a child is wrong...I would want the child to grow up with people who love and support them.
Crap. I was going to watch the movie, but now I feel like that last post may have just ruined the ending?
I watched this movie a couple weeks ago, and I had a hard time deciding how I felt about it. I often have the same thoughts as EMERALDEYES. Sometimes I wish we could require some sort of test or background check for people to be allowed to have children (Of course I realize the human rights violations that would be involved here, so I know this is not realistic). But I think it is sad that so many kids are born into situations that prohibit them from reaching their potential for success in school, work, and relationships.
I guess the bottom line is I really don't know. I would want to leave the kid with someone who can give her a better life, but at the same time I don't think anyone has the right to take a child away from his or her birth parents except under extreme circumstances. If I were to say it were okay, then why wouldn't it be okay for someone else with more money and more education, and more time than I have to take my child away from me? I think it would be a slippery slope. I do think contraception education needs to be greatly expanded though, so that people who aren't ready or don't want kids won't have them as often.