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Spending Mother's Day with MIL?
So is it totally rude of me to not want to go? My mom lives out of state and I always get a little sad every year when I have to spend holiday's with the in-laws instead of my family. I always just suck it up and go but this year I am really feeling sad about not being w/ my family so I told my H if they do breakfast that he should just go and spend the time w/ his mom. The past 2 years that I have lived here that is what we have done on Mother's Day and it is usually just my H & I and his sister & her husband that take their mom. I don't know why I am being so stubborn. For the record I don't really have any issues w/ my IL's they have always been very nice and welcoming, there are just some times when she really gets on my nerves and has in the past made a few comments that were insensitive/rude. I am sure I will probably end up going because I would rather just do it then dealing w/ a fight it might cause between my H & I.
Anyway, thanks for letting me rant.
Re: Spending Mother's Day with MIL?
No way in hell would I ever spend Mother's Day with either of my MILs, so I totally understand where you're coming from. But my mom is close and we always spend the day with her. I guess if she wasn't close and my husband really wanted to see his mom, I would probably give in too.
But no, I definitely don't think it is rude that you don't want to go.
I totally understand where you are coming from! I get along with my IL's, but at times we clash BIG time! I know you don't want to go, but I think you should suck it up and go to breakfast with them. If you don't go its going to cause friction, and that's the last thing you want.
On another note--mother's day falls on MY mother's birthday this year, so on top of the fact that both mother's live in town I've decided to spend the whole day with my mom (since it's a combo this year; therefore she gets more time), and then we are making dinner for his mom. Although, I do not want to do it--I'm "sucking it up" and doing it any ways (with all the latest housing debacle I don't want to cause any other "friction"... even though I didn't cause it--but that's beside the fact)! Of course MIL asked my husband if his brothers were coming over.... Of course I thought to myself.. "of course they are coming over, they are pigs, and when ever there is food and its free they are there". I told my husband that if his brothers do decide to show up that they need to contribute in some form... this is not a dinner honoring them--its honoring there mother; not mine. So whether they clean, bring food, or pay up they better do something! lol... yikes... i guess I too am a bitter party for 1!
Anyways, enough with my ranting; hang in there, and maybe you can make plans to visit your mom next year?
My mom died when I was young. I don't "do" this holiday.
I am spending Mothers Day wtih my MIL.
If I can do it, so can you.