Help.

rikkiandjulie

So, I've been some job hunting, and a lot of the positions have been night positions. This worries me. Julie works M-F 8-5 and I could be working M-F 5p-11p. Do any of you guys work shifts differant than DW's? How do you make this work? The lack of time together makes me nervous, I like my evenings snuggling on the couch.

butterflygrooves

I've done this before, not with DW but with a previous partner.  I worked 8am-5pm and she worked 6pm-3am, it was weird at first but it allowed me to have alone time and to cherish the time we had together more.  I grew to like the schedule, it allowed me to have my own hobbies without taking from our "us" time.

berriesnpie

I had a similar experience. When we first moved to DC E had a job that started 5 hours earlier than mine. We had lots of cuddle time in the mornings but the spacing allowed us each to have lots of alone time. We both ended up liking it. When she was in school and working full-time that was more challenging, in many ways. The long hours were difficult but I think not getting the "me-time" was very hard for her.

cymru

Carol and I have worked different shifts as long as we have lived together. For the first few years she worked 8- 4 nad I worked 3-11. That was pretty hard because alot of days we didnt see each other except at bedtime. It did make us much more aware of enjoying the time we had together and not taking any time for granted.

Now I am working the overnight shift ( when I am not on maternity leave) from 11pm- 7am. I am really enjoying the fact that we have our evening together.

It can be done for sure, it just kind of sucks.

~Kennedy

cookiemonster03

we don't really work different shifts, but C works out of state most days, so we're only togehr 3-4 nights. It works ok.

KimNSandy

With previous people, I have worked a crazy schedule that meant not so much "us" time....but with Sandy...we have decided that when I travel for work...she comes with me. We love being together and when we tried the being apart 4 days a week while I worked out of town, it was miserable for us both. So we are almost always together and I guess she's definitely "the one" because I don't mind that AT ALL.

jayangel

 I was having the same concerns while job hunting but J and I discussed it and it made me feel a little better knowing that if I had to accept a night position  it wouldn't hurt our relationship. I actually found a day job but in the case I didn't we just planned that we would make the most of the time we would both be home like on the weekends and I would have lunch with her a few times during the week.

bluedaisyus

we work completely opposite shifts. i work daytime, 7:30am-4pm, and she works 10:30pm to 7am. by the time she gets home i'm already working. we also went for a while with her on second while i was going in at 6am, so she would leave before i got home. honestly, i had a harder time with second shift than i do with third, but a lot of it was because i would wait up for her to get home from work. i wanted to have some awake time with her every day, so it meant that i got to bed later--but i was also going in to work at 6am at that point, so it was a lot harder on me with that hour and a half difference then than it would be now, and we did have weekends together that we made the most of. you can definitely make it work.

my best advice if it does happen is to make sure you're finding time to spend together. maybe you go meet her for lunch every day (or a certain day of the week if you can't) and have that hour to spend together, or she takes a nap and waits up to meet you so you can have some time every night together.  if she can't wait up, leave notes on her pillow when you leave for work to let her know you're thinking about her, or send her a text now and then. she loves you. you'll make it work.