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Staying together the night of the wedding?
Did anyone stay with their then fiancee the night of the wedding? We've lived together for over 2 years and our plan was to stay together the night before and go our seprate ways in the morning. Our rehersal is the night before until 10pm and I was gonna leave our house at 8 am and not see him again till our ceremony at 4.
I keep getting shocked faces when people ask me and I tell them I'm staying at my house. If we were staying at a hotel the night before I would consider it simply b/c we are at the hotel but I don't think either of us should have to sleep on a couch at our parents the night before our wedding, and it's not like he's gonna see we all done up.
What's everyones thought on this? Just wondering b/c of the response I'm getting from some people
Re: Staying together the night of the wedding?
We did not stay together the night before our wedding. I spent the night at my parent's house.. and honestly, it was weird being away from him for the night. But honestly, I also loved the feeling of waking up in my childhood bed, surrounded by my sister, mom, and dad. It was very nostalgic.
And I'm sure I would have gotten the same shocked faces if I told my family that we were staying together the night before - haha! I heard the phrase "living in sin" several times once we started living together, pre-wedding.
We stayed in different hotel rooms the night before the wedding, but I am traditional like that. It was funny though, I had all my BMs in my suite with me and my poor H was alone in a regular room bc all his GM wanted to stay with their sig others. He said at one point he was pacing around the room. Poor guy.
If it makes you feel better to stay together the night before, go for it! It is YOUR wedding...forget what other people want for you...do what you want!
I stayed at my mom's house and slept in my old room, and H stayed at his mom's house. The H didn't want to see me the day before. I didn't like not being with him the night before but it was important to him. Once the day started though it went to fast for me to realize. Do what you two want to do.
I wanted to stay in my own bed the night before, but my family is pretty traditional. I stayed at my parents. If they didn't have a bed for me - I probably would have stayed at home though, b/c I wasn't sleeping on a couch! H stayed at our house with a few of his groomsmen. It was kind of fun for him b/c he had another night with his guys - I know they hung out for awhile. I had 2 BMs stay at my mom's, but we didn't really stay up late or anything - I was tired!
I say do whatever you want!!
I stayed at my mom's the night before the wedding and Tim stayed at our house with the groomsmen (they were all too far away to stay at their own places). It was really nice. I slept in my own bed, my sister, a chef, made a killer breakfast and we just hung out.
I recommend doing it that way because the reveal at the ceremony was that much nicer since I hadn't seen him for a day.
Yeah but staying at my parents wouldn't be that fun...first they have no beds left...and both of my siblings don't live their anymore either so it would be me and my parents. My mom can be a nut and going by how she was the night before my brothers wedding she would just drive me insane and make me a nevevous wreck.
I figure if we stay together the night before (really won't be seeing eachother b/c we'll be sleeping
) and then I leave early the next morning it will still be a good 8-9 hrs before our cermony and that's good enough.
..and my bigger reason for wanting to stay home is b/c we leave the day after the wedding for the honeymoon and I want to see my puppy
I'm gonna have issues leaving him and if I don't see him the day before the wedding and then the day off the wedding and then not for 10 days I'll got nuts!!
Thanks for the responses
For me being able to spend the night before with my sisters, moh, and parents was nice. Then again my one sister lives in California and they other one in Boston so we are rarely all together at the same time. So spending the night before my wedding with them was nice. Then when we woke up in the morning my mom made us all chocolate chip pancakes.
It's different for each person. If you want to spend the night before at home in a familar place with your very soon to be hubby then go for it. If people give you crap just tell them that it's your day and you'll start it with whoever you want. If they still give you crap for it I'll beat them up.