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s/o: traveling alone
Why not travel alone?
2brides - is it because you wouldn't want to leave your wife with both boys?
Meegs - you wouldn't take a weekend getaway without Trav? Why is that?
I treasure my vacations without K as much as I treasure the ones with her. She just went to Phoenix without me and it was great for her. Plus I liked having the house to myself (well except for being scared of the dark). And there are times I like going to California without her. I can just veg out with my friends and not have to worry about breaking up our time between her family and my family. It's nice to just be selfish once in awhile and do the things I want. Am I alone in this line of thinking?
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Re: s/o: traveling alone
Aside from business trips, I'd be hesitant to ever travel w/o Andrea. Basically, she makes everything more fun for me, so why would i want to? We always seem to be on the same wavelength and enjoy the same things, so its not like I'd get to do things I wouldn't otherwise do. Oh yeah, and I'm a big baby and would be missing her the whole time.
But, I realize that I'm not as independent as most - I'd never ever go on vacation alone (Meegs - i'm seriously impressed!). And I barely enjoy spending an evening away from Andrea, I can hardly imagine longer.
ETA: I dont think you're at all alone in your thinking. I know lots of couples that have vacationed seperately and most of my coworkers relish business trips as a break from their families, lol.
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Oh, no - she can definitely handle both boys (although it is exhausting to do it solo and thus not relaxing at ALL for the one home!) It is more that we don't have the funds for us to do much travel as a family (other than doing the obligatory annual grandparent trips and one budget trip a year) much less as individuals. None of our friends live close enough to to a short drive to see them - we'd have to fly.
Plus, now that L is back in school every free minute she has is doing school work and while she is doing that, I am with the boys. So, in order for me to go anywhere, she'd have to forfeit doing school work - thus getting her behind in the semester (and causing great anxiety.)
Pre-kids we did travel some alone - we'd go to our parents more frequently, fly off for friend's b-days, etc. Addding kids just adds a whole new dynamic to everything.
On a spinoff - We've never had anyone spend the night with the boys while we went away (In 3 years I haven't spent the night away from the kids!) Not because I don't want to - we just don't have family willing to do it, and we'd have to pay our nanny $$$ to stay. Plus, Grayson still gets up during the night to sleep with us. The boys godparents recently offered to spend the night with them and I am thinking of taking them up on the offer this summer before the chaos of the fall (school) starts again. Hmmm....decisions.
Makes total sense! Part of the reason K went to Phoenix alone was because we couldn't afford for both of us to go - lol! Maybe our budget works opposite of everyone else ;-)
I don't think you are alone in your way of thinking. The first thing that comes to mind is that both of my sets of parents (dad&stepmom, mom&stepdad) take trips independent of each other. My stepdad will go fishing or skiing with friends (my mom has NO interest in either activity). My dad will go to away to different auto events (races, swap meets) without my stepmom. My stepmom has gone away with girlfriends a couple of times, and my mom has gone to FL to visit her parents alone.
As for C and I, we prefer to travel together. There's no one else I'd rather travel with, and I'd miss her.
sahm ~ toddler breastfeeder ~ cloth diaperer ~ baby wearer
This. Exactly.
My reasons are very similar to 2brides... we don't have a ton of money for travel stuff, so if we're going somewhere we're both going to go (aka pay for the hotel only once, vs. once for each of us). Plus we both love to travel, so I'm not going to tell Trav, well I want to go to Italy, but I'd rather do it without you. He would be seriously bummed to miss out on such a cool trip.
That's not to say I never go places without him... I go out to dinner with friends, etc. but I'm just not going to make a big, exciting trip without him. Especially since I really do love sharing that stuff with him!
Plus, when I said that (in the other post), I was really referring to a big trip... a week plus, going international. And I meant going it alone, with no friends with me. I wasn't referring to the occational trip to visit my best friend who lives in California. That I do get to do without him. And love every second of it!
Edited to add: I just re-read your question, and I definitely go away for weekends on my own! I love my time with friends and my time alone... I was talking about much longer trips then that.
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ITA! Long trips our out of country I wouldn't go with out K. But for a quick visit with family or friends I don't mind going alone. I miss her by the end of the trip and I love the feeling I get at the airport when we're about to see each other again :-)
we don't really do many shorter trips, other than weekend camping or trips to her parents. most of our friends and family are pretty close, and most of our big trips tend to be further away for vacations that we wouldn't do on our own. i would consider taking a short trip by myself, but i don't think i'd enjoy it nearly as much as i would if she was with me.
she has occasionally had to go to michigan or around the state for up to a week for work stuff, but i think of those differently. i also really cherish the time we do have together since we work different shifts, so that might be part of my reluctance to go without her.