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PCP/TTC/ATP Wednesday
How's everyone doing?
ETA: QOTD: Will you (did you) choose godparents for your children? Even if you don't have a religious ceremony, will you consider doing something else (or did you?)?
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Re: PCP/TTC/ATP Wednesday
Our consultation with AICGB has been rescheduled. Apparently whomever we need to see will not be there at our originally scheduled time. So instead of going next week, we're going in two and a half weeks, right after we get back from our vacation. At that point, we are going to start zeroing in on our donor choice as well - I'd like to have our #1 and #2 choices picked by mid-July.
sahm ~ toddler breastfeeder ~ cloth diaperer ~ baby wearer
I had my CD10 u/s this morning. I have 3 follies that measure 17, 14, 14. They need to keep growing so I'll go in for another u/s on Friday and then the IUI will likely be Saturday. My E2 from CD10 last cycle was 708 which made me very happy :-) It's likely I had 2 mature eggs released and that the issue was timing. So it's on to round 2 with the hopes of better luck. :-)
QOTD: I don't think we'll have our future kids go through a church baptisim however we do have godparents picked out. I'd like to do a simple ceremony with family to show the importance of the godparents we've picked and why we want them to raise our kids if we are unable.
nothing new for us, other than my traumatic day care pricing. I know it'll work out, but eek. we're just trying to settle on a timeline since now isn't obviously happenning.
QOTD: I have zero desire to get kids bapitzed. Chris kind of wants to. We need to work this out.
Wow! How exciting that you're already onto #2!!
QOTD: No godparents for us. We are not members or practitioners of any religion, and will not be raising our children in any particular faith. Our children will have special adults in their lives, of course, and we have to decide who should be their guardian if anything were to happen to us (I think a for a lot of families - that would be the godparents), but no "godparents" and no ceremony.
sahm ~ toddler breastfeeder ~ cloth diaperer ~ baby wearer
Update: We're waiting. And waiting and waiting. Nine days till our beta. No symptoms so far, but we are only 5dpo. I'm on prometrium 3x/day this cycle, so I don't know if I'd really trust symptoms anyway.
QOTD: I think I'll let Sylvia answer this one for us. She has a much more extensive religious background than I do (I've only really been going to church regularly since I met her). We haven't talked about this in detail yet, but we've talked in general ways about who we might choose as godparents, so I think we'll probably have someone in a godparent role.
Regarding baptism more generally... I was baptized as an adult (I was raised in a non-religious household)-- I actually was baptized in 2007 when I was 29-- and I like that I got to choose that for myself. That said, I spent much of my childhood worrying about what would happen to me if I died because I'd hear kids at school (public school) say that if you aren't baptized you don't go to heaven when you die.
IUI #3 gave us the best 2nd anniv. gift ever: 2 babies! (born 03/09/10)
Peanut and Little Man are getting so big! 2 years old already!
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We're on CD6 - we'll start checking for the smiley on Sunday. We're both really hoping it comes some time next week and not while we're on vaca, but we'll work it out either way. We'll consider b2b IUIs if the positive opk comes next friday. We're also temping this month and I'm finding it really nice to have that extra piece of info. too many unknowns last cylce. But overall we're much calmer and feeling great about try #2.
QOTD: we won't have "godparents" as that's traditionally a christian thing that accompanies baptism and even just using the term would alientate half our family. Judaism does have a similar tradition but its called a Sandek or Kvater - equally alientating to the other half of the fam
But, we will assign legal guardians and make sure its widely known.
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I know I can't believe it's around round 2!!
I like your QOTD response. I use 'godparents' as a rather generic term and because we aren't a religious household we won't be raising our kids in any one faith. For me I think the ceremony would be nice to just say "Hey look family - we've put V and L in charge of our kids legally, and now in front of you here today, should something happen to us." Knowing our families I think just doing that would make them understand the legal guardian decision better.
I'll be interested to hear when they trigger you. We were told to trigger the day after our CD13 workup that showed two 17s and the 292 E2, but without any additional u/s or bloodwork to confirm growth. Maybe it was because we were later in the cycle, though, and he was trying to avoid me ovulating "old" eggs. It's so interesting to see the varying approaches REs take.
IUI #3 gave us the best 2nd anniv. gift ever: 2 babies! (born 03/09/10)
Peanut and Little Man are getting so big! 2 years old already!
finally blogging again at This Will Be: An Adventure
Potty training is going MUCH better. I'd say Grayson is 90% trained - although he had accidents yesterday and today after being accident free for almost 5 days. Carter on the other hand...sigh. He'll go if we bring him - but will NEVER tell us he needs to go and unless he happen to time it just right, he always has poop accidents. Sigh. Thankfully, putting a pull-up on over their underwear when we go out isn't confusing them and it gives me piece of mind that we aren't going to leave a puddle somewhere.
QOTD: We are not a religious household - more spiritual than anything - but did choose a "godfather" for the kids He really is the kids guardian in our will, but we use that term more to signify that he is a very special person in their lives since we don't want to say, "J is your guardian in case we die."
yay!!!! Carter will get there too
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S is painting the nursery today. Which is very exciting. So by the time I get home tonight one coat will be up and I can really get an idea of what it is going to look like. We got the the no VOC ben. moore paint and wow that stuff is expensive. $50 A gallon. Good thing we only prob need one gallon. S went to ikea to pick up the dresser yesterday so once the paint is done we can put the crib and dresser together. I am very excited about this. I have my glucose test and drs appointment next tuesday and am excited to hear the heart beat and check on the little bubber. I think I move up to every two weeks after this appointment. I can't believe that we are almost out of 2nd tri! crazy.
As for god parents wer prob will not have them. S's family is not religious and mine are unitarians. We will probably have the baby dedicated (the uu equivilant of babtism with out the sin and all). I guess my dad is already talking about it. It is a pretty cool event where the family and the congregation dedicates themselves to raising the child together. I can't remember if anyone stands up with you for the ceremony. If there is I am sure we will have S's sister since she and her husband will most likely be the guardian. I guess I will have to talk with S about that.
Last cycle I triggered CD10 but I had follies at 19 and 17 and the E2 of 708. I'm taking my ovidrel with me on Friday so that if everything looks good we'll trigger at the REs office and then return 24 hours later for the IUI. That would put me at CD13 for the IUI and my positive OPKs usually happened that day. So hopefully that means the eggs won't be too old.
Today the nurse said that for clomid cycles they really do prefer to see follies in between 20-23 if possible. More room for the egg to get out??
Things are going okay here adjusting to life with Annie. Last night Carol did the overnight baby duty including bottle feeding so I got 7 whole hours of sleep!!! The most I have had in almost 2 weeks. It was glorious!
We are having Annie baptised. We are catholic and have a very good friend of the family who is a monsignor in the church. He did the blessing at our wedding and will be doing the baptism. As for godparents, we are having three. It was very important for me to have my best friend as a godmother, she has some of the strongest faith of anyone I have ever met and is as close to me as family. We also elected to have Carols sister as a godmother. Now we have also decided to have Carols brother as a godfather so Annie will have a whole contingent of people behind her.
Good luck to everyone in the wait this week!
~Kennedy
I'm in the 2ww (6 dpo, i think?)... and am a little annoyed with my body. Pre-m/c I could always tell when I was ovulating, now my cycles seem wonky and the signs I always relied on aren't always there, or are fainter. I don't know if my body is just getting back on track, or if part of it is just that I haven't had to pay attention to cycles since December and am not as practiced... but its making it hard to figure out when to try.
I never wanted to temp before, but this is one of the first times I can see why one might.
On a nicer, though "means nothing in the end" note, if I did O this cycle when I think I did, then our timing was exactly the same as the month we got our first BFP. Again, means nothing really... but serves to give me a little hope!
QOTD: We will have godparents with some kind of ceremony. Its very important to Trav, and I always wanted our kids to have that special relationship, so I'm happy to do it.
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we're doing great. c has been ravenous this week, and is definitely showing more and more. we think we might even be able to feel where the baby is in her belly right now--although who knows! she hasn't felt any movement yet, but it could be any day now. she's promised to tell me as soon as she does.
qotd: i was raised quaker and wasn't baptised, nor was my sister, and we don't have godparents. it means very little to me, and about as much to my family. c on the other hand was raised catholic, and her parents are still devout--although she's not so much anymore. it is important to her that the baby be baptized, so we will. i'm not sure about godparents. i'm honestly not even really sure how it all works...but i assume we will?
We are doing good this week. I'm a bit concerned about Oing, today is CD 18 and I haven't had a positive OPK in this cycle yet. I'm debating getting a BBT thermometer to start tracking that way as well as using the OPK.
QOTD: My daughter doesn't have godparents, I've raised her without religion. DW was raised Catholic (not practicing but definitely a believer) and she wants all of our children to be baptised Catholic and have godparents. We will most likely baptize my daughter along with our first child and give them both the same godparents.
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As always, I have no news of any kind
QOTD: We're not religious, so no godparents in that respect. I kind of like the idea of having another special adult in your life aside from relatives (or one special relative), but we would end up choosing my bro/SIL who will be their only uncle/aunt anyway... so whats the difference?
ETA- after reading your responses, I'll add that I was not/am not baptised and Katie was as an infant, and thats something we both believe an adult should choose for him or herself. So no baby baptisms. My bro/SIL will be their guardians if something happens to us.
PCP updates: C and I are starting couples counseling next week (to work on general communication improvement and make sure we have the dedicated space focus on our relationship with a professional) not sure how long/often we'll go, but I'm looking forward to it. I'm also starting acupuncture with a practitioner that specializes in fertility.
As soon as school ends (next Friday), I'm going to be devoting the majority of my time to organizing, packing, donating and storing our belongings, as well as taking other steps to get our condo on the market.It's daunting, so I need to break it all into manageable tasks.
AOTD: I (was a Catholic) and am now a Unitarian Universalist (and C is non-religious but attended Christian school growing up). We both believe that faith is a personal thing that you should be able to choose and therefore infant baptism is not something we'll be doing. I think we will have a dedication and naming cermony with our friends and family. As far as legal guardians in the event of our death, we're currently trying to decide again. For wahile we had a couple in mind, but that's no longer an option. It would most likely be my mom, but we need to discuss it more.