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PCP/TTC/ATP Wednesday
We've had a lot of baby chat lately but Wednesday are always good to let it all out...so what's up today?
QOTD: If you don't have children yet - what's the best thing about not having kids at this time? If you already have children - what's the best thing about having kids in your life?
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Re: PCP/TTC/ATP Wednesday
Well we're 4dpiui and so far I'm not too crazy. The time seems to be moving a bit faster than last time. We have family visiting this weekend so that will help move things along as well. K is still convinced we'll get our BFP in August (cycle #4) and K tends to be right more often than me - lol! And in all honesty I'll be thrilled if we're pregnant by cycle #4.
QOTD: The best thing about not having kids yet is not having the expense of daycare. I'm not looking forward to that. I'd say that not having kids also allows us to travel when we want, but really, with two bigs dogs we have to plan things pretty well in advance anyway.
Update: We are 11dpiui and just watching the hours roll by until our beta tomorrow. Still no real symptoms to speak of, but our hopes are high. Oh, and DW has a new nickname: "The Instigator." At her prompting, we ended up testing last night (yes, Sylvia, the no-testing-until-beta-day fanatic decided she wanted us to test). It was negative, but at 10dpiui neither of us were too worried about it.
QOTD: I'll answer the first part, since S's daughter is an adult and lives in another state, so we don't have kiddos living with us right now. I suppose the best thing is that we completely make our own schedules. We can have a lazy weekend if we want to, or jet out to the grocery store with minimal pre-planning. If one of us has to work late, it's not as big of a deal as it would be if working late meant that one of us would miss seeing the kiddo before bed time. But I have to say, I am really looking forward to giving all that up! I would happily give up every lazy weekend (and more!) if it meant we could have a child in our lives right now!
IUI #3 gave us the best 2nd anniv. gift ever: 2 babies! (born 03/09/10)
Peanut and Little Man are getting so big! 2 years old already!
finally blogging again at This Will Be: An Adventure
Insem #2 tomorrow at 10:40. the sperm bank faxed over 15 pages of documentation so it better be an IUI
and i'm planning on pushing the plunger again! hehe. We're feeling great about this cycle. way more relaxed and just....happy 
i posted my foster update on the bump but the summary is: we've got about another 3ish weeks of waiting. I"m SO fustrated and steam over it for most of the day, but i do have faith that all this waiting will result in us meeting the exact child we were meant to meet. at this point it is out of my hands and being angry doesnt do anything to help the situation. despite my complaints, i do have the patience to make it through this wait.
QOTD: the best thing about not having kids is the ease in which we are able to attend non-kid-friendly events. I dread the complications of babysitters - especially when it comes to our foster children since there are LOTS of regulations around who can watch them. Our on-the-go life is going to change dramatically.
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Funny TTC story - we fully expected swimmers to arrive on Tuesday and that would be plenty of time...until she started to LH surge early. Cut to us tearing the house apart Sunday morning for the magic phone number for the sperm bank on the weekend. Took us two hours to find it - HOW COULD WE LOSE THAT? Long story short....instead of having it shipped Monday for Tuesday...I DROVE to the bank Monday morning. six hour round trip...goodness. Insemination one was Monday afternoon and insem 2 last night. We are feeling great about this cycle - especially in the sense that we had extra mayhem on the getting the swimmers end. So...we wait
Good luck CT! Sounds like we are waiting together again.
Best part about not having kids yet? hmmm....that is getting harder to come up with...we are really wanting to be parents now. Um....we too have pets to schedule so it's not the travel thing. Probably day care expense.
We are still searching for a new nanny. It is a slow and painful process. We have 3 phone interviews set up between today/tomorrow plus a couple we need to schedule. It is such a daunting prospect - this morning I was thinking about all the things that our current nanny knows - that the new one will have to learn. I am sure it'll be fine - but it sure is a PITA.
QOTD: When they were babies, we loved to cuddle with them and to watch their development grow by leaps and bounds. Now that they are older, we love to see things through their eyes, to have conversations with them and really see how their little minds work, to watch their personalities really come to full light. Somone told me that having children was like having your heart outside of your body. I thought it was silly till I had children. It seriously hurts my heart when other kids are mean to them or they get their feelings hurt by someone. I was to protect them from all of the meanies of the world.
That being said, I really really really miss lazy weekends, going out with my wife alone and not having to 1) arrange a sitter or 2) pay $12-$15/hr for a sitter (since that makes dinner and a movie a $100 night.) I also cringe when I think how much we shell out for childcare each year.
But I wouldn't send them back for the world.
Update: We had our monthly appointment yesterday. It was really quick and went well. All measurments were great the hb was in the 150s and was super easy to find. My weight was up (11 pounds since getting pregnant) which I know is normal but totally hard to swallow. I just felt fat. I am over it now since I just ate my whole lunch before 11 am. How I will make it to dinner I don't know. I had my glucose test as well and strange as this sounds I actually really liked the drink (does that make me weird?) I will get the results next week. I hope I passed. Next visit is in 4 weeks. We start our childbirth classes tomorrow. I hope that we are not the only gay couple or at least other people in the class are cool.
I think having our own time is what I enjoy about not having children. I like that we can make plans on the fly and not worry too much about a plan.
No updates, but when we move back home. We are going to be legally wed! :-D
For Us the best thing about not having children is the ability to do what we want when we want. This move wouldn't be nearly as feezable if we had a child. We couldn't go on spontaneous roadtrips, we couldn't stay out all night. It's pretty much just the ability to do what we want when we want. We aren't willing to give that up yet. . . . . . . in honest probably never.
We are waiting until my November cycle to do the IUI. It will probably be done the first week of December, the week before my birthday!
The best thing about having a child in my life... She opens my eyes to life. I've never looked so thoroughly at the small things before. She has taught me that life can be silly even when it's stressful.
Two Mommies Healing Hearts
BFN yesterday, so I'm just waiting for my period to start.
The best thing? Sleeping through the night and sleeping in on the weekends. Being able to just pick up and go out easily.
Maybe I don't have a heightened sense of smell, but I've never smelled any vagina on my pants. -- TSD
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Update: Can't remember if I mentioned this already - AICGB had to reschedule our consult. Now we are going Monday the 22nd, right after our vacation. Still tracking/temping, which is going well, and so far my cycles are well within the range of normal, and I didn't not super sick with my period this month like I did before bcp, so that was great.
QOTD: Sleeping through the night is probably the best thing about not having kids. Though, at this point, we are so ready to be parents that nothing really sounds like the "best thing about not having kids" to me.
sahm ~ toddler breastfeeder ~ cloth diaperer ~ baby wearer
Still tracking cycle info, just got my thyroid levels checked again today (hoping to get my levels into the optimal range) and will start acupuncture next week. I'm sure the reduced stress of being done with school will also help. I have to make an appt with my ob/gyn in 2-3 months and I'm going to see about an HSG for Sept/October.
Best thing about not having kids: I would say sleeping in but with our dog we wake up early anyway. Probably alone time just the two of us, and going out late. We have friends that want to babysit, but there are nights when nearly our whole community goes out dancing and stay out late. I don't want to miss that, but a sitter will be spendy.