Male nanny?

2brides

Would you hire a male nanny? There is a male nanny that matches all of our criteria - but I don't know... I hate that I have to question whether or not I'd hire a male nanny. I think it would be great for the boys to have a positive male role model at home - but if (godforbid) anything were to happen, I'd never forgive myself.

I worked with some amazing men when I worked at camp that were awesome with the kids. My former roommate in FL was one of those men - he is now a pediatric social worker and is so great with kids. Sigh.

 

 

mandykatie

If he fits your criteria, I say go for it!  The only thing that would bother me, I think, is that ppl would assume he's their father.  But then again, ppl might assume a female nanny is their mother, so I guess it's not terribly different.  You can do some kind of background check, right?

Two*True

I would.  If everything about him checks out than give him a shot.

ctbride08

My friend approached me with the same exact question a couple months back here's what i told her: if all other things were equal, I'd prefer a male nanny.  Not that the boys wont get it in a million other ways, but it is a great opportunity for them to build a healthy, loving relationship with a male and to have a male role model - both of which i think are beneficial.

 fwiw, she hired him and he's absolutely fantastic.

Mrs._F

If he met the criteria, and I had a good feeling about him - felt the children would be safe and cared for - yes.

2brides

I am waiting to hear back from L. I e-mailed her his info and I can't wait to hear what she has to say.

Duchess1

I understand why you might hesitate. I am scared to leave the gilrs with anyone for even a few hours, it's scary out there.

I  guess, like a female nanny, it will come down to going with your gut..Let us know what happens.

nevr2amazin

I plead the 5th.

rikkiandjulie

I would with out a doubt. With no hesitations. If he's fully qualified what makes it differant than a woman?

2brides

We decided to go ahead and contact him. We'll see if he responds.

Honestly, pre-kids I wouldn't have given it a second thought (treat all people the same, blah, blah, blah.) But now that I have two kids to protect, it gives me pause given the statistics. Not something I am proud of - but like I said in my TTC update - having kids is like wearing your heart outside my body and I don't want to even think about someone hurting them.

rikkiandjulie

2brides:

We decided to go ahead and contact him. We'll see if he responds.

Honestly, pre-kids I wouldn't have given it a second thought (treat all people the same, blah, blah, blah.) But now that I have two kids to protect, it gives me pause given the statistics. Not something I am proud of - but like I said in my TTC update - having kids is like wearing your heart outside my body and I don't want to even think about someone hurting them.

I understand! Good luck with the nannyness!

cookiemonster03

I think you should meet with him. You gut will probably tell you a lot.