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Moms: How long did your mom stay with you after baby
My mom is trying to decide how long to come in town when the baby comes. I'm not sure how long I want her here.
So....How long did your mom come in town/stay with you? Would you have wanted her with you longer?
Re: Moms: How long did your mom stay with you after baby
My mom lives nearby and MIL was in town for 5 days but stayed at a hotel. Honestly after the required 4 days post C-Section at the hospital I was ready for it to be just DH and I. But I will say that my DH is really helpful with the baby, housework and cooking.
I think one week after you get home from the hospital would be enough.
7 weeks with your MIL? Bless you!
My mom was here for 1 week after we came home from the hospital and then my MIL came for the following week. We live far away (1,000 miles) from our families, so we're used to being independent and we wanted to be alone with our baby.
That being said, if we have another child, I think I'll want our moms to stay longer - more so to help with Jackson than anything else.
7 weeks?!?! I think I would shoot myself if my mom stayed that long.
Yeah that, a lot. I'm ready to lose it 7 DAYS into their visit. They live in KS and didn't come down till the kid was 2 or 3 weeks old, and they stayed about a week and a half.
SEVEN WEEKS!?!?!
My mom lives in town and never spent the night but of course she was right there... I think that having a houseguest adds extra pressure so it just depends on the mom. If she cooks/cleans/does laundry and makes herself at home...great. If it's like you have a guest at your home...that would get old after about a day.
My parents live in Grapevine & I'm in East Dallas. My mom is going to come stay as long as I need her to (she is close enough to be able to run home if she needed to). I'm having a C-Section Thurs & I just don't know what it will be like yet.
My mom's great, though. I guess if she was annoying, etc it would be different. I'm really looking forward to it.
Wow Sars, it's almost time! Good luck on Thursday, I'll say a prayer everything goes smoothly.
Not a mom yet, but DH and I agreed MIL who lives OOT (and is very overbearing) won't be spending any nights in our home, I just don't want overnight guests. My mother lives close enough to come over during the day and help out, and I'm sure I'll want that, but still no overnight for her either.
My mom came for about 2 weeks every weekday and then whenever she felt like it after that. No overnights stays in our house. MIL works and lives close, but is no help so she just popped in for visits whenever. My mom and I are not close so I was ready for her to go, but she was a gigantic help at the same time so I bit my tongue and smiled and thanked her.
DH only had the week off that I was in the hospital and worked long hours at his job and I went home pretty banged up so I needed some help, plus DD was really rough on everyone. If she wasn't so rough, I wouldn't have needed the help at all. It really just depends on you, the baby and your relationship with the parents.
I agree 7 weeks is WOW - I think I'd lose my mind
She was nice to do that!!
I think Jenn is nicer for letting her stay that long!
LOL - no kidding, I wouldn't be as nice
And after a baby too - I sure couldn't be that nice! I'm in awe honestly - don't know how you did it.
Ditto, almost exactly. I'd rather give birth to a 20 pound baby than have either my mom or MIL stay with me for any length of time,
However, my husband was off work for 4 weeks, so that was a big help.
My parents have tickets to get here 4 days after DD's due date, and will stay for about 3 weeks. Of course, our situation is different, being 1/2 way around the world and all. It takes a good few days just to get adjusted to the time difference.
I think my mom esp will be a big help w/ the baby and cooking meals and all that. My dad will help too, although he has a whole list of places to visit while here which just makes me laugh (no dad, I will not be climbing Mt. Fuji days after birthing a child...). I think they will stay w/ us a week, go on a weekend adventure just the 2 of them, come back for a few days, go off for another few...that sorta thing. So they will be here 3 weeks, but maybe not every single day for that long (to give us some time "alone parent time" w/ the baby when she is new and little). I am excited they can come over though and think 3 weeks is a good amount of time.
DH also gets 10 days off when she's born that he can take anytime w/in the first 2 months. So, depending on when she gets here he'll either take it before they get here, or after- just so I can have help around the house for the first part and not be 100% solo w/o family or DH or anything.
Nope, not nicer. Seriously, she was very helpful. I was clueless & scared when I first had Jared. I wanted all the support I could get (& had heard that you should always take all the help that was offered). For me & DH it worked out great. My MIL is a servant-type person. She was great @ balancing our needs w/ her own. She gave us plenty of time to bond as a family & be "out of our way." And she's an awesome cook!