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Wedding gift idea - worst possible circumstances

DH and I just booked our flights for his cousin?s shotgun wedding, Thursday 2 weeks for now. Here?s the worst part, his cousin is marrying his girlfriend of several years, who he also has a son with, b/c the bride only has 6 months to live. She is dieing of breast cancer. I can hardly talk to DH about it with out crying. The entire situation just breaks my heart. Plus, to make matters even worse, the cousin lost both of his parent?s several years ago, and now his wife.

 

I?ve been trying to think of appropriate gifts?I thought maybe a hotel night or 2, but we don?t know if that?s possible given her chemo schedule. Any ideas?  

Re: Wedding gift idea - worst possible circumstances

  • That is absolutely heartbreaking!!

    Hotel night sounds like a really cool idea... you could call the hotel that you want them to stay at, let them know the situation, and I am sure they can put something great together to give to them.  If you do it that way, the hotel can work around their schedule so you won't have to worry about the chemo.  Nice hotels will have some great ideas to help create a really nice "getaway" weekend for the two of them!  I would start calling around and see what you can put together!

    HTH! 

  • How horrible.  I'm sorry to hear that.

    Although I don't have any great ideas, I would guess that a memborable experience would be appreciated.  I think the hotel idea is great as long as they could decide when it would take place and it's not too far of a drive for them, or a spa gift certificate so they could go together or at least she could go, gift certificate for an airline so they could get away for a long weekend? 

    For a wedding I in each bridesmaid was assigned a month and gave the couple a 'date night' gift leading up to the wedding (with the thought that they would take a night off from preparing for the wedding) - we gave tickets to a minor league baseball game, a bottle of wine and a book that couples fill out together about their relationship, trail mix and an area hiking book, a picnic kit and magazine with an article about the best picnic spots in the area.  All aren't appropriate, but maybe you could do a few low cost date things like that?

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  • I cannot even begin to imagine what they are going through.

    Ditto to the previous posters.  Things that will create memories for the 2 of them and thier son.

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  • l like the other ideas, also maybe do a scrapbook or something that will benefit the son!

     I cannot even imagine....

  • The date nights are a wonderful idea!  I could put together a few different themed evenings.

  • I like all the pps replies about a hotel or something! The only other idea I had was maybe a nice, small video camera so they could capture EVERYTHING in the next few months. Lots of video of their family and stuff. So terribly sad :(
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    The only other idea I had was maybe a nice, small video camera so they could capture EVERYTHING in the next few months. Lots of video of their family and stuff.

    I think that's an awesome idea.  I'm so sorry they are going through this.  You are sweet to put so much thought into their gift.

  • Oh that just breaks my heart - I like the hotel and the date night ideas
  • I'm almost crying reading this. I think the hotel and date nights ideas are great. I also like the idea of a video camera if they don't already have one. That would be a great thing for both your DH's cousin and his son to have something of her living on like that.
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  • I think a photography session would be cool too -- so they can get some non-wedding family portraits before she passes.

    What a sad situation though -- I'll be sending up prayers.  :(

  • I love the date night ideas - maybe a family activity as well that can involve the son?
  • These are all wonderful ideas! Thank you. I've reached out to an aunt about all of the the ideas, to figure out which would be best for them.
  • Not sure how old the son is but what about a night at Great Wolf Lodge? If she is going through chemo, she might not have the strength. What about a message/spa day for the 2 of them?

    I am so sorry.

  • I can't think of any other great ideas (I think anything  memory creating is great) but just wanted to say my heart goes out to them. What a sad situtation.

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