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Pregnant =D
***Not sure what all the mess is up top. I can't seem to make it go away.
How's that for an obvious subject title post 
Now that it?s out at work I can finally share with you
ladies, I?m pregnant 
3 months along and feeling great. Baby is due end of
Dec/early Jan.
I?ve just started telling friends/extended family which is lots of fun, although I am in total shock about how many people are asking if it was planned! Anyone have a good response for this? I?d like to skirt the question without making them feel like an ass? I don?t want to blatantly point out how rude they?re being (not my style, and also some have been at work, so not appropriate), but it?s totally none of their business.
So far my response has been smiling and saying
we?re thrilled, which usually is enough, but the other day someone took that
response and said ?well I know you?d be happy about it either way, but was it
planned?? 
Anyway, not complaining, life is pretty sweet right now. I?m
happy to be able to finally share with you ladies 
Re: Pregnant =D
Congrats!
I'm not sure why it's such a big deal about the was it planned comment? I ask pregnant ladies that all the time. Guess I'll understand when and if I get there. Don't let it bother you... for us non-pregnant ladies, it's just a natural question.
Congrats, I'm so excited for you!!! I got the "was it planned" question all the time and didn't really know how to handle it, either. I always just said the same as you, "We're very excited" or whatever.
I can't believe you ask pg ladies that all the time, and I can't believe even more that you don't realize why it's rude! Do you not understand that it's none of your business whether or not a pregnancy was planned? I don't think it's a natural question for "non" pregnant ladies to ask. I never thought to ask that question before I got pregnant and I was surprised that people had the balls to ask it when I told them about my pregnancy.
Mom, why are you washing my feed in the sink?!
I'm not super offended by the question, just find it odd and uncomfortable.
I mean the two natural answers are yes or no, but if I say no, then (IMO) I look irresponsible for getting pregnant when I wasn't planning to, but if I say yes, then it feels like I'm providing them with private info on a) my sex life, and b) my life plans, neither of which are anyone's business.
Oh and no please don't say anything on facebookt. I have not had the chance to tell all those important to me yet, and I feel like some would be really hurt if they found out via fb rather than directly from me. So please do not say anything on there. Thanks for the reminder Rachel
WHOO HOOO!! This is awesome news, Shannon!
Congrats.
As to your question, I would say something like 'I have a wonderful husband, a great house and a good job. Why would you ask me something like that?"
This is an incredibly rude question and it is not a natural question. It is asking a question with the expectation that you are going to judge their answer. It's really no one's business how the pregnancy came to be. I can't believe you think that's acceptable.
As a general guideline, if a pregnant woman wanted to give you the details of the conception, she would offer - so just don't ask.
Congratulations!!!!!
I will never understand why people think it's ok to ask a pregnant woman/couple if the baby was planned or not. What a ridiculous question either way...how annoying! Just wait til all the world wants to touch your belly!LOL
COngrats!! ?That's so exciting!!! ?Are you finding out the gender? ?
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Oh well guess I'm just rude then. Good thing all the pregnant people I know have been my friends.
I want to wait for the surprise. DH wants to find out, not so much to find out, but just because we can, since the technology is available to do it, he doesn't see why we should wait. I like the surprise idea better though, so that's what we'll probably do.
Thanks for all the congrats ladies!
Wow, congrats! Winter babies are great.
Just say yes to the question, people ask because they want to hear juicy details of how people got pg by accident. A yes will shut them up. Doesn't matter what the answer is, that's private between you and DH.
Congratulations! How have you been feeling so far?
Oh....and was it planned?
Congrats!!!!
I can't believe people ask that. I know I've thought it a few times when I've learned someone is pregnant but I'd never dare ask. Mostly because like someone else said, if the answer is "no", well that's awkward. So I go with, I assume if you're telling me you're having a baby you are happy about it - planned or not - and I will be happy for you.
I love the answer about having had sex before and it never happened. I was going to go with "Do you mean, did I know I was having sex? Yes I did, that was not a surprise."
Congratulations Shannon!!!
I?m so happy for you! I hope you?re felling well too. No
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I can?t wait for a Feb/Mar GTG the # of Babies there will be crazy! lol
Re: the ?planned? question:
I?ve never been asked it and I?m surprised to hear that it?s a common question. I do find it rude to ask that. Why not ask ?do you have a felling of what you?ll have? are you preparing already? How did you tell your family? NORMAL questions like that but was it planned?
?umm actually no it wasn?t, DH decided to jump my a$$ in the kitchen and we had dirty-rough-$ex and then 3 weeks later Ta-Da!?
As a pregnant women it's stupid and rude IMO there are better ones to ask.
Congrats Shannon!!!!
I suggest a throat punch to anyone who asks you that question.
You know how thrilled I am for you!
Wishing you all the best in the coming months!
OMG YAYAYAYAYAYAYAYYYYYYYY! Shannon that's fab news!
I'm so excited for you
Winter babies are the best fo sho.
This one's going to be a redhead too! I know it!
I want to try using this answer and then take a picture of their face when I do.
OMG Congrats!
So you were totally preggers when we were at the GTG! You're coy!!!!
H&H 9!
You honestly ask people this and don't think that it is rude? Wow.
Why is it any of your business anyways?
Wow Shannon, Congrats!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! That is such awesome news
I was going to page you about something else but that is so totally awesome. I hope you don't mind I change the subject instead of startinig a new post, lol!! Where do you buy jeans? I need a new pair and I used to by them at Bluenotes but they discontinued the style I like.
Wow, what a way to make an announcement!
Seriously, congratulations! I'm delighted for you!
And about rude people... well, you'll hear all sorts of unsolicited comments during pregnancy (and ever after). Even my own grandmother asked me whether my husband was happy that I'm pg again
And also told me to tell him that this will be the last baby.