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QOTD: If you had the opportunity to be a SAHM would you? (we know brit's answer 
) Also, would it be difficult to choose which of you would stay at home?
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Re: PCP/TTC/ATP
QOTD: LOL, CT! You bet your bippy I'd choose to be a SAHM! Don't get me wrong, the budget will be tight, but it will be worth it. It was a very very easy choice for us. C is very career-oriented, and her work means a lot to her. Meanwhile, I can't wait to be home with a baby. My 6 months of nannying proved to me once and for all that I am going to love being a SAHM mom. It's a hard and demanding job, for sure, and Cecilia's job is demanding as well - it's just that we are each suited for our own thing.
Our only update is that we have chosen which donor to order. We found out that I'm cmv negative, so that wiped out 2 of our 4 picks, and we decided to go with the guy with the adorable baby picture first
We have second and third runners-up chosen if this guy turns out to be a dud. We'll place our order in the beginning of August to be ready for our first try!!! Today is CD1 of the last non-trying cycle! So far, life off bcp has been very good to me (knock on wood) - I did burst into tears last night and have a little fit of anger this morning, but I will gladly take the emotional side effects over the physical ones!
sahm ~ toddler breastfeeder ~ cloth diaperer ~ baby wearer
Update: I started clomid for this cycle on Monday. Round 3 IUI will most likely be next Tues-Thurs sometime. K and I have had some nice talks lately and we think we may move on to IVF in September if necessary. We're not going to commit to anything one way or another but it might be the best use of our insurance and time so we'll see.
QOTD: Absolutely. My mom was a SAHM until we were about 12/13 and then she went back to teaching part time (and eventually full time). Looking back now I am soooo thankful my mom was at home. If we get pregnant soon then it's highly unlikely I'll get to be a SAHM but if it takes awhile and K gets a full time professorship than it might be a possibility. Even if I get to be a SAHM I think I'd like to probably get a pt evening job once the kids were a bit older.
nothing new here.
QOTD: I have bangs of wanting to, but mostly I need a new job. I'm bored. C would make a MUCH better SAHM than I would, but its really unlikely that would happen as she makes about 50% more than I do.
They weren't lying when they said 3y is the new 2y. Pfft.
QOTD: No. We could probably swing me not working (75% of my salary goes to childcare) but I really do like my job and I am just not cut out to be a SAHM. I think I would do better now that the kids are a bit older and we could go do more - but even after a long weekend, we are all ready to get back into our routine. I love that I have some flexibility in my job so that I spend some time with them in the AM and then a pretty long chunk of time evening with them. L would love to homeschool and would fabulous at it - but unfortunately she makes 3x what I make, so that isn't happeneing.
Update: We're definitely doing b2b IUI's this month. I purchased 1 more vial of donor #1 and should be recieving a call with the tracking number any minute now. Today is CD7 so insems should be some time in the middle of next week (probably tues/weds). I cryptically told the boss that i needed flexiblility next week for "appointments in boston" and she took it great. It helps that most of my office will be out next week on vacation so the timing is nice.
As for fostering....i might actually lose my mind before we even have a child. Continued converstations w/ DCF and others in my class have us thinking we've got a ways to go.
QOTD: I would love to be a SAHM. LOVE. But its not financially possible, and probably wont be for a while (if ever). We have been talking about A being a SAHM, though, and if we have multiples or end up with 2 infants at once (foster/adopt and bio) we will almost definitey have her be a SAHM. The ironic thing is that she's not nearly as enthused about the possibility as I would be. Dont get me wrong, she's suggested that it would be best for our family and would be happy to spend so much time w/ our children, but she's much more social than I am and is worried about feeling isolated. So the honest truth is that a part of me would be jealous. If only we could both stay home!
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Morning sickness has come to town... yippee. Though actually, it did make me a tad more relaxed!
Tomorrow is our first appointment, which isn't so exciting... but we will get the order for our first ultrasound. Yay!! Now I just have to decide when/where to get it. The mw told me about 8 weeks, which is when we will be in Cape Cod. So I could wait an extra week and get it when we return, or try to find a place up there that takes our insurance and do it that week. I'd love to do it then instead of waiting, plus if we did, we could tell his parents in person... but it might be a pain to arrange. What would you ladies do?
QOTD: I'd actually say no... at least not full time. I would love the chance to stay home with my babies more, but I need some outlet that is completely seperate, with adult interaction. I feel that work, which uses a different part of my brain then parenting will, fulfills me in a way which makes me a happier person... and which will make me a better mom.
Maybe I don't have a heightened sense of smell, but I've never smelled any vagina on my pants. -- TSD
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we went yesterday for our 20-week appointment.
only to discover that they had set up the appointment for the downtown office rather than the one by our house. we have no idea why. so we're rescheduled for thursday. at least it means i'll get an early head start on the long weekend!
qotd: i would be a sahm if i could--although my wife would not. she'd get bored and stir crazy, and she really enjoys her job. not that i don't enjoy mine (most of the time at least), but sitting at a desk all day? not nearly as rewarding as raising my kids and taking care of things at home.
This is tough, but I think personally I would wait. I think that if G-d forbid I got some bad news I'd want to hear it at home with my regular doctor. And I wouldn't want to have to try and smile in front of family for a week. But that's just me and I always tend to look at the possible negatives first.
My update is that I am in major pain. My SI joint is totally inflamed or stuck or some really bad thing. I am fine if I am sitting or laying down (except last night I was up for a while in pain). I have been going with the rest, ice and tylenol route but with very little relief. I really can't walk at all and just kind of hobble around. I am going to call the Dr to see if they can see me or perscribe something better than tylenol or get me to pt. I have pretty high pain tol. but this is reaching my limit. I actually asked S if she thought they could give me my epidural early (like right now)! Enough whining...sorry.
We have our tour of the hospital tomorrow which we are both really looking forward to. This is instead of our regular birth class lets hope I can actually walk by then.
QOTD: I would be a SAHM if I could but I have always known that is not an option for us since I make more $ than S (esp. since S is still out of work!). So I will be going back to work. I do get the best of both worlds as I get my summers off so I get to be a parttime SAHM for June, July and Aug. each year. I think S may get bored at home but she would do a great job at it if she did. If she is still out of work in Jan when I return to work then she will be staying home for a bit as we can't afford daycare on my salary and unemployment. Hopefully we won't have to think about that.
My only update is that I finished another semester and am slowly getting closer to graduation. Two A's and a B (which I thought was going to be a D), so I'm thrilled with that. We're still talking about TTC on a daily basis, but so much is up in the air...
AOTD: No... I always thought I would love it, but I cannot handle being home all day. I need to be out in the world. Plus- I'm really excited about starting my new career. Like SSG, I'll have summers off, and I'm sure I'll be glad to go back to work in the fall. It will never be financially feasible for us, anyway.
LMC climbed out of her crib during nap yesterday. I heard knocking on her bedroom door, it scared the crap out of me! So much for our plan to slowly transition her to a big girl bed. We just had a little chat about it and put her in there at bedtime. We did it Su.p.er N.a.n.ny style and only had to go in 13 times before she stayed put, under half an hour. She was playing with her teaset when we went to check on her this morning, happy as can be. I actually feel like I did something right for the first time in weeks!
QOTD: I always wanted to be SAHM. It didn't seem possible financially while we were TTC and I was learning to accept it when I got laid off. So, now I am a SAHM by default and even though its the hardest job I have ever had, I couldn't imagine not being here everyday. It's requires a lot sacrafice but we think it's worth it.
Popping my head in to see how all you ladies are doing. I'm hoping to join you soon, but this whole process has been uncertain and emotional, so forgive me if I'm not around much until I'm really here. If that makes sense. It's good to catch up on your news.
We have pretty much decided on buying sperm rather than a known donor. We explored the known donor option as much as we could, and it was just too difficult a path for us. Money's been an obstacle, however, so we weren't sure how everything was going to play out. I recently took a summer job that will give us the money we need to start TTC. So hopefully by September I'll be joining the ranks. I have a visit to a Urogynocologist in a couple weeks, to discuss some fibroids/polyps I have, so until I know what she says I am trying not to make too many plans.
In other parenting news, our kiddo graduated high school a couple weeks ago! So strange. And stranger to be thinking about starting over with a tiny baby.
QOTD: I absolutely plan to be a SAHM. We've been working towards it for several years, and aside from some part-time jobs here and there, I've been a SAHM while R was in high school. We built a sewing studio so I can work from home, and switched around our lives in other ways to make it possible. So I expect to continue to stay home when we have kiddo #2. We're hoping Holly can find flexible jobs close to home or work at home so she can be around as well. We're also planning to homeschool, so the SAHM role will be pretty essential to that.
HI!! long time no see. :-) wow, i can't believe the kiddo graduated. congrats to her--and hope things are good with you two otherwise. i hope you come back more regularly soon!
Two Mommies Healing Hearts
Two Mommies Healing Hearts
We are still a few years from TTC so no updates here.
QOTD: We plan for me to be a SAHM until our children start school. This was an easy choice for us since J cares a great deal about her career and will likely always make more money than me. I'm totally fine with this since I don't really enjoy working and would prefer to be at home taking care of our children.
Married my best friend 5*15*2008 Trying to start our family 8*2011
unmedicated iui#3= bfp 10/20/11! beta#1=11, beta#2=85, beta#3=741,beta#4=1000,beta#5=2146,beta#6=7454 *please keep doubling*
Updates: Acupuncture appointment Monday went really well (I love having someone else talk about our baby!) I have new herbs that will help me with hormonal regularity and stress and a new prenatal (3 times a day!) and a couple other supplements. I'm reading a book on hormones for fertility that I'm enjoying. We had a couple's counseling session last night that went well and we're planning our 4/2 anniversary trip to Vancouver for Sunday/Monday (our anniversary is Tuesday, but due to C's work we're celebrating early). We also booked our trip to OK this October to visit her family and for me to attend a childbirth educator conference. It's weird to think that the trip could be between insems. On the HSG front, it looks like it won't be covered, but I need to get the final word (and pricing) from my doc when she gets back from vacation.
AOTD: I would love to be a SAHM. The goal/most likely senario will be fore me to nanny for another family with a baby around our child's age for at least the first year, then maybe do doula work/teach cbe classes around C's schedule until number two. Depending on finances/desire, I may try to find a part-time job (something that I'm passionate about and can use my degrees/expereince) and share childcare with another part-time SAHM. One long-term plan/dream is to maybe to start an in-home daycare so that when we have number two I can stay home with them both. We'll see. If I got a really great (read high-paying job) C said she'd stay home, but I don't think it's her first choice and would be better if they were older.