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Bad 4th of July Experience :(
We went over to H's friend's house (I'll call him R)- (neither of us like his girlfriend- but hate avoiding "R" because of her). They BBQd and everything was going ok- we had 'pork chops' and ribs plus other non meat stuff. In the middle of eating the 'pork chop' the g/f said "Yeah, R told me not to tell you this is actually veal, but you ate it so I thought I could tell you."
Ummmm, WTF?! Just last month we all had a lengthy discussion about how opposed I am to veal and have never eaten it, and don't plan to, etc... then she pulls this crap. What would you do in a situation like this? I really don't like her anyway, and really don't want her "friendship", but I do like R, and H has been friends with him for 15+ years..
What is wrong with people?
Hope you all had a good 4th!
Re: Bad 4th of July Experience :(
Why, is this her fault? She was being honest about what you ate. The person you should be upset toward is R. He cooked & served it to you. She was told to be quiet & chose to be honest.
Sucks that happend to you. I would be upset if someone served me meat, after I said not to.
I would be livid.
Although I have to ask (and I've never had veal or pork chops) but couldn't you taste a difference?
No, there really wasn't much of a difference... they look very similar- same color and size... just a little more tender than pork chops. And it had BBQ sauce on it- so I mostly just tasted the sauce.
The reason I am more upset with her is because she was the one who purchased the meat (her dad owns a meat processing plant), and she bought the food without R, so when he found out what she bought, he said not to tell us- and she decided to watch me eat it and wait until I finished before telling me- he was BBQing. Plus, she made it a point to tell me they were pork chops. But good point about R- I'm not thrilled with him either- this one was a team effort.
I don't really feel like dealing with them anymore... my H is kinda torn because they've been friends for so long... but he is going to have a little chat with R in the next day or two.
Yeah, that's just immature. One of them should have told you before hand so you could have just avoided it all together. You don't wanna eat veal, than that's your prerogative. Telling you it's one thing then telling you what it really is after you ate it is just dumb and rude.
I agree that both of them share in the blame. That's tough. H has several friends that I really wouldn't mind were out of the picture, but I don't want to tell him not to be friends with them anymore. Sometimes friends-in-law can be really annoying.
This!
Sorry you had to go through that!
And that was the worst part- they knew I was opposed to it- and she felt she was making some sort of "point" that veal wasn't "bad"- but what she just doesn't seem to get is that I can't stand the way they are treated. If they wanted to serve it- fine, I don't have to eat it. But to specifically tell me it was one thing when they knew it was something I was opposed to was completely not-cool. I haven't ever liked her- and this just proves to me that my instincts about her were right- and she is not someone I really want to spend time with.
Yea, it sounds like she was trying to show you that you were wrong to not eat veal. That's fine if they don't agree with your choices, but they need to respect that you feel differently.
I never saw the reasoning for people to feel that they have to convince someone who won't eat something for whatever reason that they're wrong. Like you were suddenly gonna say "gee, thanks for opening my eyes, I want veal everyday now!"
I care what food morals people have if they don't push them on me, I won't push mine on them. And I sure as heck will try my best to make sure there is something for everyone to eat. So you won't eat veal, its not like there's not a million other things they could have provided as a substitute for you. Or you could have munched on sides and I'm sure not have been nearly as upset by the ordeal if they had just let you know ahead of time. Just childish.