hanging out with the hubbs?

PallieDS

How much time do you and DH spend together? How much quality communication time? How much just hanging out without really talking?

My DH is a WoW player and we are having a more difficult time than expected figuring it all out. We eat dinner together everynight without the TV on so we can talk about our day, what's going on, etc. We go to the gym together a couple of times a week. We hang out and watch TV together or at least hang out in the same room probably 3 nights a week.

I am normally pretty happy with the amount of time we spend together expect when he goes raid crazy and plays well into the night 3 times/week or more.

So, I'm just curious how much time you spend with DH during the week to see how we measure up. I know every relationship is different but it would be helpful to see how other couples work...Sorry the post ended up being longer than I imagined.

Huskerfanz

When we both get home from work we have "couch time" when we talk about our days and catch each other up on things.  We eat together every night but it's usually in front of the TV.  The rest of the night varies.  Sometimes we play Wii together, sometimes we run errands together, sometimes do things around the apartment.  We are usually together for that but we aren't really talking. 

Almost every Friday we have date night which could be dinner and a movie or grabbing some fast food but they are more quality communication time. 

RockThisB!tch

We spend a ton of time together... we rarely do anything without each other.  We always have dinner together during the work week, unless he has a work dinner meeting.  We have dinner, play Wii, chill on the couches on our laptops, play online games together (like Yahoo games) or board games.  A few nights a week, I go down to the basement to work out or outside to ride my bike and sometimes we take walks together with Piper (when it's not too hot or cold).

On the weekends, we go out together (sometimes with friends, too) on Friday nights to dinner/the bar and usually have Saturday night at home with movies & takeout.  We usually go shopping on Saturdays and have lunch at the mall and relax and do yardwork/housework on Sundays.

aravis227

Ditto Rock...we spend almost all of our time together.  Even when we're at work we text each other fairly regularly.  Yeah...we're THAT couple...I chalk it up to having lived in different countries for so long and to having a TINY apartment, so it isn't like we can be far apart when we're at home.  At least once a month I go have a girls night and hang out with my girlfriends or my mom (yeah...I hang out with my mom, she's one of my best friends now that I'm an adult). 

futuremrsschulze

I'm usually getting dinner ready when DH gets home from work so he usually hangs out with me in the kitchen for a little while or I'll go into whatever room he's in to catch up on our day for a few minutes.  When the yard work needs to be done DH will usually do that while I'm cooking.  We always have dinner together, then spend the evening just hanging out together (watching tv, sometimes playing cards together).  We do have our quiet times, but we talk quite a bit in the evenings, and we always go to bed at the same time so we have some quality time together before we fall asleep too.
On Fridays and Saturdays we are always together, unless he goes to get a haircut or I run to the store or something.  Occassionally we spend time with friends those nights.  Sunday is our "totally together" time....we very rarely run errands or anything on Sunday, we just spend it with each other at home, so that's nice and makes for a nice relaxing day before the week starts up!

me2rean

Right now DH is working 12 hr shifts 7 days a week OOT, so our "quality time" is squeezed in between his dinner and his collapse into bed. Poor thing, atleast when he comes home we get to relax for a few days in a row. Unfortunately, I'm so exhausted I sleep more than normal. Here's hoping for some work in our area! 

KristieElizabeth

Right now, we don't see each other during the week. He is working in another city about 4 hours away. He leaves on Monday around 5 AM and doesn't come home until Friday afternoon. On Friday I'll cook dinner if he wants me to or we'll go eat. The weekend is either spent together just doing things around the house or going places or he goes golfing with his guys. Before he started these business trips, we would have some quality time while he helped me finish cooking supper and while we ate. After that, we would do dishes and kind of go our separate ways. We were in the same room to watch TV every night, but we were both doing different things.

datagirl79

Before we were married, DH and I spent a lot of time together.  We worked together, but since he got laid off after the honeymoon, things are different. It was strange at first, not seeing each other during the day, but knowing he was at home, made me excited. We do eat dinner together every night and we watch tv in the evenings.  We text back and forth during the day.  We have home-made date nights now because the budget is tight.

ameliaandmatt

DH and I spend a lot of time together, we have dinner together every night and usually spend a couple of hours outside with the dogs (weather permitting) every evening.  I go to bed a few hours before him every night, though (I require a lot of sleep to function, DH, not so much) so we rarely get "pillow time".  We spend every weekend together in the spring and summer, usually at the lake wakeboarding, or out on the farm riding 4 wheelers or horses together.  During the fall/winter months he's usually at the hunting club for the weekends, but he takes me with him whenever I want to go.  This year I'll probably go a lot more because his best friend (who is married to my best friend) just got in, so I'll have a buddy while the boys are out hunting!

annabear07

After work we spend most of the night doing things together whether it is cleaning, watching tv, or other stuff.  Most weekends we spend a lot of time together.  We don't have a car so we spend a ton of time walking to places together which adds to our quality time.  I had a boyfriend in college that played video games all.the.time.  It was the demise of our relationship so I made sure to let MH know from the begining that I expect a lot of attention!

Chrissy3321

Sean is full and part time fire fighter, so we eat dinner together at least one out of 3 nights (2 if he is held over too late on his part time shift).

We spend a lot of time together when we are both off work.  We hang out with friends togethr etc.  Mostly, I get my alone or girl time when he is on shift and he gets alone guys time when he is off and I am at work.

jzoromski

When DH gets home from work we usually eat dinner and chat about the day.  Depending on the night, we might have to go to the store or go to some event, but if not we just hang out at home.  On the weekends we are with each other most of the weekend.

acp927

Most days, H comes home for lunch since I don't have a job yet and am at the house, so we spend that time together. When he comes home from work, we he usually gets caught up with his Internet stuff and I start cooking. We eat together every night, and after that we usually spend time apart for  a couple of hours because we're both only children and we like having that time alone. Then we reconvene and watch TV and such before going to bed.

On the weekends, we sometimes spend the day together but sometimes we have separate things to do, and in the evening/night we are always together, either alone or with friends. We have a very close-knit group of friends and that hasn't changed since we've gotten married.

lorimw1

With DH not working now, he drops me off & picks me up from the train each day, I usually go work out right after work while he makes dinner. We eat dinner together every night (sometimes with TV on, sometimes off). I clean up while he takes the dog for a walk or we clean up together & walk the dog together. Then we either watch some TV or work on our laptops.

We usually relax on Friday nights together, run errands on Saturday, maybe go out on Saturday night (with or w/o friends) or go to a family members h ouse for dinner, and on Sunday DH plays paintball 2-3 times a month and I meet up with a friend for lunch or shopping or relax at home with the dog.

MattysGirl09

My DH is a WOW player as well, so I understand where you're coming from.  We have a deal where he raids twice a week, which works out for both of us.  It gives me time to do my own thing while he does his.  He sometimes plays on Saturday afternoons as well, but it's not to common.  My Sister and BIL have something similar, maybe you can come up with an arrangement that will work for both of you.

celestej619

Well dh actually got me into playing WoW with him, so I'm probably no help. We do spend a lot of time together, in fact most of our free time (unless one of us is at work) is spent together. We go to the gym together in the mornings before work, and after work we eat dinner, and either watch tv, play WoW, watch netflix, or play board games. On the weekends we like to swim, go hiking, basically just get some good quality time in the outdoors, or hang out with friends. And of course, we make time for more WoW....lol