Speaking of TTC TMI

aravis227

My mom asked me the other day if I could be pregnant (I'm not...yet).  Does anyone else feel awkward when they're asked this question by a parent/church-member/co-worker/etc?  Like..."Why yes, mom...I am having a lot of unprotected sex, thanks for asking."

RockThisB!tch

Ugh, yes - MIL and my mom both ask me all.the.time.  Both know I'm not on BC, too, so they ask just about every time they see me/talk to me.  When it's the next freakin' day from the last time they asked, it's literally like they're asking, "so, did you do it last night??"    I know it's a [mostly] joking, but it's getting on my last nerve.  Especially since I've told them both a million times that we're not going to actively try for another couple of months. 

MuseumMaven

This is the beauty of both of us being the youngest - there are already grandchildren on both sides.  No pressure! 

Sarah05102009

To be honest, I know my parents would think a pregnancy right now would be bittersweet. Thy have been nothing but supportive of our relationship/marriage, but I think a part of their soul thinks we got married too young. They got married when they were in their late 30's and think that is best for everyone.

 My MIL though, she never comes out and asks if we are ttc, but asks questions where if I gave more descriptive answers, she would find out. She knows for the most part though we aren't planning on having kids for another few years or so. 

Huskerfanz

I'm a little surprised because I don't think anyone has asked us about kids.  We are young but also the first to be married in both of our families.  It's nice, though, because we aren't planning on TTC for a few years.

That would be really awkward, though, to have the mom's ask those questions! 

futuremrsschulze

Yes, I can see how that would be awkward!  We haven't been asked if we're TTC (we don't plan to start TTC for 1.5-2 years) and our immediate family (my parents, MIL) know our plan is to wait.
Unless SIL gets pregnant before we do (they've been trying for a while), we'll have the first grandchild on DH's side and my side.  My mom understands our reasons for waiting a little while, but MIL wants a grandbaby right now....she wants to be a grandma SO bad, but she'll just have to wait a little longer!

KKleese

We are actively trying but anytime someone asks I say it may take a while and yeah I am definitely a little weirded out when FIL's say all we can do is have fun trying. Like I really do not want to discuss my sex like with my new in laws!

becca.coleman

my dad's welcoming speech at the wedding reception ended with "i am giving them a 90 day reprieve before i start asking for grandchildren - my clock is ticking."

RockThisB!tch

KKleese:

I am definitely a little weirded out when FIL's say all we can do is have fun trying.

Um, yeah!  My FIL said this to us!  Definitely not appropriate...

JodyKay

We haven't heard it from anyone yet.  I have 6 nieces and nephews, so my family has enough to handle right now.  DH's parents don't have any grandchildren, but the last few months have been a little busy for them with our wedding and DH's brother's wedding last week.  I don't think they've had much time to think about grandkids.  I'm sure we'll start to hear it soon enough, though.

annabear07

That is on eof my biggest pet peeves.  I know people are curious but do they really know what they are asking.  I'm sure they don't really want to know the dirty little secrets of our sex life.

Luckily we haven't had any pressure yet but I'm sure MIL will start soon.  Or rather, I know she started even before the wedding but not to our faces.  My mom already has two grandbabies and I'm her little girl, so I don't think she has even fully accepted that I'm married yet! 

jzoromski

We haven't had anyone ask us yet from our families, but we haven't really been around them in person to get bugged about it yet.  I'm curious to see what they say to us when we go visit here in a few weeks.  My parents think that we should wait awhile to have kids, his parents wanted grandkids the minute we got married.  Fun times.

acp927

I'm with Husker, no one's asked us yet, but probably because we're so young and no one expects that of us right now. While we were engaged my MIL made a couple of side comments about grandkids and I was like, "What?!" I was afraid she was going to get worse once we got married but she actually hasn't said a word. I don't think she was really expecting any anytime soon, just in a "mood," especially since the daughter of one of her best friends is currently pregnant. 

 I can also imagiene though that it would be awkward to share with others...

emmypants

I went to bed early the other night and had been texting with my Mom and she wrote back "Sleep or sleep " and I about died.  Brett laughed like a hyena.  I wrote back "sleep you weirdo."  My Mom & I are very close, she is 1 of my best friends, but c'mon now, don't go asking!

Brett's Mom had said she wanted grandbabies like 4 months after we'd started dating.  I smiled and said that I wanted a wedding first.  She looked at Brett and said hurry.  If her or my FIL ask about it, I'd probably die.  haha.

jquirke9881

Both of our mothers brought up children right away.  His mother even called on Fathers Day and said "Even though you're not a father, hopefully you will be soon."  We were pretty open about wanting a family fairly soon, but we didn't mean like right.this.second and are not trying yet.  I already had to tell my own mother to back off and assured her she will be one of the first to know.  Get out of my uterus, people!

Strawberryglobug

Ya know its funny actually. My mom was on us the minute we got engaged always asking if I might be pregnant. Since the wedding she's let off a bit. However, his parents were were always saying 'wait a few years, enjoy marriage' are now on us more making little comments here and there. Even when his dad comes over to work on the house with my hubby he'll suggest things or not doing certian things if we're going to make the one bedroom a nursery anyways. Weird