Need Advice...

Gerrard07

I lost it two days. I went on shopping trip with 2 girlfriends and while on the way home I started to think about DH and whether I'm really happy with life in general. The answer is no.

So for the past two days I've been miserable and not talking (trying to sort things out on my own). DH has been hounding me about whats wrong but I couldn't bring myself to tell him till this morning. I told him I'm unhappy and his response was 'why?' I tried to tell him in a roundabout way but the honest answer is I'm not really sure.

About 15 minutes ago, he blew up and told me to go wherever it makes me happy. I went into the living room and proceeded to take down all of our wedding photos, our marriage license and our engagement photos. Childish, I know but my emotions got the best of me.

I don't know why I'm not happy. I was fine two days ago but now I just feel as though the life is sucked out of me.

Has anyone else ever felt like this?

vpy082507

I think you might be depressed. What you need to do is talk to a doctor, your husband and other people that support you. Tell your husband you need his unconditional love and support and that you are going to see a doctor about your emotions. I struggle with depression and do not take meds. There are other ways to feel happy. Try writing in a journal to help find out what is making you unhappy. Just knowing that my family supports me makes all difference in working through the down times. Diet and exercise may also help, you might need light therapy. You might not be depressed but you need to be open, honest and see a professional in the beginning. Good Luck and I hope you truely do find a solution.

amfurore

I think the PP is right.  Start with the doctor and see if it might be general depression.  A counselor might even be a good way to sort out what it is that is really bothering you and help you with ways to express that to your DH.

 Good luck!

earthmuffin

I agree with the PPs although with a twist...not only talk to your physician but also talk to a counselor or therapist. Doctors are great but they generally don't know a lot about depression or behavioral concerns and will write a script but not provide any of the talk therapy that can help you identify why you are not happy and help you work through whatever it is. I had a friend who went through similar problems about a year ago and they seperated for a few months, got counseling both individually and as a couple and things are much, much better now. Counseling is nothing to be afraid or ashamed of... it helps people to have someone who is not at all involved in the situation and yet knowlageable about behavior work through rough periods in our/your lives. Be good to yourself too! eat a healthy diet, get excercise, talk to the people that you love and care about, and please talk to someone. If your work offers the phone counseling program that can help and is free too... just do something so that you can get through whatever this is.