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DH is deploying...
Hey ladies, I haven't been around much the last week since I"ve been trying to deal with the news...
DH is in the Marine Corps Reserves and just found out last Friday night that he will be deploying back to Afghanistan early next year. I'm totally bummed. I've been bracing myself for the news since he re-enlisted last fall, however, when the bomb dropped last Friday night (his SSgt left the info on our answering machine... really... talk about no tact.), let's just say it's not easy news to deal with no matter how much you try and prepare.
So in anycase, I was a total grouch all week. Thank God the boys in my office are all like big brothers so they've been really supportive to me all week. The one guy's wife (she and I have gotten to be really good friends) told me they'll all be my "surrogate hubbies" while DH is gone. That made me laugh. I'm so glad I've got great friends like them. They were like "well, I guess we'll all be splitting the 'honey-do' list while Adam's gone!" 
Not a whole lot of info yet besides it looks to be an 8 month deployment, plus 6-8 weeks for training before hand. I won't go into specifics for OPSEC (operational security) reasons. *sigh* We were planning on trying to start a family in the Fall when he finished the police academy!
At least his department has been really great too. They're so supportive, and told him not to worry about his job, it'll be there when he gets back and not to worry about me because they'll keep tabs on me while he's gone. They're such a great department - he's very, very lucky. At least he'll be done the academy by the time he leaves.
Thanks for reading my book if you've made it this far. It's just a lot for me to handle right now and my mom and dad are out of the country on vacation so I can't even talk to my mom about it (which makes it a billion times worse, since she's my best friend!). I'm glad I've got you girls.
Re: DH is deploying...
I am so sorry.
We went through two deployments with one of DH's best friends from college, and it was never easy, but we always made it a habit to step it up with his girlfriend. Hopefully since it's only an eight-month deployment, rather than a year, it'll fly by, but I know that thought right now doesn't make it any better. Sounds like you have an amazing network of support around you already and what great news about your H's new job/department - I will tell you, the brotherhood is strong amongst cops and they certainly take care of their own/families (I've grown up with this, and it's a wonderful aspect to the career), so I am sure they will make good on their word to him.
We're always here to listen, so if you need to vent, know that we'll always be here for you!
... every single day of forever.
I'm sorry that you got the news... I can only imagine how hard the reality of him being deployed again is and will be. But, it does sound like you have a lot of people who will be there to help you out and hopefully make the time go by much faster. Are you still close (location wise) to your parents as well? It sounds like you have a good support system there too, which is great. Hopefully between all of the people you mentioned - work, family, DH's department - it will be a quick 8 months.
hugs to you - and yup, we're always here!
I'm sorry you have to go through this. I did it last year and it was so hard, but we made it through and so will you. Enjoy the time you have together now. Will send prayers and positive thoughts--I'm around any time.
Lisa Beth
I'm so sorry to hear this news. I hope for both of your sake that the deployment goes quickly. It sounds like you both have awesome support through your jobs which is definitely reassuring since its one less thing to worry about.
I think if I recall from when you were house hunting that you're in my area of the east shore so if you need anything feel free to email me (jprice916@gmail.com). Of course we're always here if you need to talk or vent!
Thanks for all of the support, ladies!
We're just taking it one day at a time and we'll see how it goes. I've already been warned not to send a third of the care packages I sent last time lol! He couldn't even give the stuff away, he said. I told him I was adopting all of the Marines going over in his unit and I'd rotate care packages around between them lol
Megan, I'm about 3 hours away from my parents, but they're always awesome and willing to come out whenever.
I am so sorry to hear this. I went through 2 deployments with my exhusband, so I know how you feel.
One of my best friends is going through this right now. Her husband left in January. She has a great support network too. She is head of the support group for the unti that her H belongs to.
Maybe you could see if they have that available. Hang in there and hugs to you!
I'm sorry to hear that you have to have that hard time
. I know I'm still new to this board/the nest, but I hope I can be here for you if you ever need to vent or anything.
I don't have any experiences to relate, but your family will be in my thoughts and prayers!
I'm a Central PA lurker since I now live 1,100 miles away but I return here whenever I get homesick. I just wanted to let you know that I can sympathize with you. I'm a former Army Wife (only because my DH got out of the Army) and we went through two 18 month long deployments together. If you ever want to just SCREAM--I'm always just a PM away.
By the way, I always let myself be in denial until he had those papers in his hands. Knowing the way the military works, it was never official until the orders were in black and white.
I hear ya! I'm hoping that things change drastically in the next few months and he doesn't have to go, but not holding my breath. lol But you're right, it's not over til the fat lady sings... he should know more after drill next weekend. blah. Thanks for the support!
I'm sorry to hear that. I can't imagine how hard it is to deal with.
It does sound like you have a great support system, though.
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