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Dilema
Hey everyone,
I know I don't post here that often but you guys always give such good advise so I thought I would put this out there...here is my dilema...
I took some college classes right out of hish school (10 years ago) and about 2 years ago decided to go back and persue a certified nurse midwife degree. I have been working full time and going to school at night for the last 2 years.
I just found out yesterday that any classes taken over 7 years from the date of application or transfer to a college no longer count?whooooooosh?..there goes most of my credits, about 45 out of my 60.
So I now need to take 14 classes before I can even transfer. I was planning on transferring in Fall 2010 and now I wouldn?t be able to for a another year, if I can get all the classes I need at night and take 3-4 per semester, so it could potentially be longer. At this point I wouldn?t be done with the midwife program until 2014 and that?s if everything goes 100% smoothly and I get accepted to the CSU and the masters program on the first try.
Which means having kids is pushed out, and my bio clock?s alarm is going off!!! LOL Even if school is out kids would still be at a minimum of a year out because the wedding is Aug. 2010 and we would need a house first, currently we are in a 1 bedroom condo. If I continue with school they are more like 3-4 years out. (**all estimates, you never know what is going to happen financially) So I am feeling totally lost and I don?t know what to do. Start over, retake everything and push everything else out. Or backburner school and find another path. I could always go back again when our kids are in school full time. Will I? I can?t predict it but I think I would. I have pros and cons for both and I literally don?t know what to do. This is the second time that I have found out time altering setbacks, so I feel like maybe someone is trying to tell me something LOL?why the advisors I have been seeing haven?t mentioned this 7 year expiration I don?t know?.Sorry for the NOVEL! LOL J and I have been discussing it at length and thought an outside perspective would help.
Re: Dilema
Just to clarify, you're thinking of finishing a BSN, then doing a MSN to become a CNM, correct? (I work at a major nursing school)
How would feel about having kids while you're going to school? My mom and best friend both had babies and jobs while in college...it's hard but not impossible.
What would you do instead if you decided not to become a nurse midwife?
I think ultimately that this is the type of question you need to go with your gut on. And while I understand that its a difficult, confusing situation to be in, if you sit on it for a while the right answer will become known.
I had to make a similar decision a few years back and I decided to put my education first. As much as I wanted to just settle in and start our family, I knew I wouldn't be the best mom I could be if I had such a big "what if" hanging over my head - not to mention that the pay increase from the extra education means that I will be able to better support our future children financially. So, I really buckled down and got through my classes as soon as i could. It was hard and I questioned my decision many times, but now that I'm at the other side, I'm so glad that I did it.
Best of luck!!
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I agree that is something you have to go with your gut on. But I will say that your DP will need to really be on board since a lot of parenting duties will fall to her - even when the kids are older. My DP is working on her PhD and it is a lot of sacrifice on both of us.She always feels guilty that she is away as much as she is and I am constantly exhausted from doing the primary parenting and working FT. We know that it is what is best for our family in the long run, but it is a challenge.
Good luck deciding!