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So mad at MIL

We had decided the best thing to do was not go on vacation, and maybe that Kyle would go for a few days, later on in the week. ?This morning, she calls him, and started to give him a hard time about not going, and kept saying how she was just looking forward to having all of her grandbabies there, and if i go into labor out there that it took so long last time that I'd make it home, blah blah blah. ?So, my husband, feeling totally fine, well, maybe not totally fine, but feeling okay about not going, now spent the whole more with overwhelming guilt and disappointment about not going. ?He decided to go today until Monday now. ?I did not expect it to be today at all, and I feel bad about not letting him take Eli. ?I have never spent the night without the kid, and so when i go into labor, that will be the first time leaving him (our little romantic getaway never happened because of San Francisco stuff). ?It would be a pretty bad time now to have him take Eli 4 hours away and leave me completely alone...so, needless to say I'm upset, crying, and so angry that my MIL called him this morning and gave him a hard time. ?GRRR.

Re: So mad at MIL

  • I am feeling better now. ?Thanks for letting me vent. ?
  • I'm sorry you're having a rough time lately...it sounds like your MIL is an insensitive dolt.  I probably would of yanked the phone out of DH's hand and told her how selfish she was acting.  Hang in there your little one will be here soon.
  • I'm sorry, that was definitely selfish what she said.

    For what it's worth, I think you are making the right decision to stay home and take it easy.

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  • I think it is really insensitive of her. What if you do go into labor? Then you will be hours away from your husband and have to call someone to help you. How selfish of her!
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  • sometimes you just have to hate MIL's.  Like mine, last night calling me to tell me "surprise" she invited 5 people to stay at our house tonight and "what are you cooking for dinner?"  Excuse me?!?!  I have 1 spare bed.  (her response: well, you and (dh) can sleep in the living room, can't you?")  umm.... NO! no one sleeps in my bed but me and dh (and the dogs!).  Ugh, *i love my family, i love my family...*

     

    I'm sorry she did that to you -- if you need us, we're here :)

  • Thanks for the support ladies. ?I decided that after vacation and what not, I am going to need to say something to her, or well, at least write her an email letting her know that I was frustrated that she called and gave him a hard time about not coming, rather than being disappointed but supportive of his decision/our decision to stay home. ?I talked to him on the phone and he said he has been defending our family's decision to not come, and defending leaving Eli with me. ?I feel bad but he sounds like he is enjoying his family time. ?Its upsetting that she did not encourage him to be home with his wife who pretty much is on bed rest, haha. ?Grr, oh well. ?There are times when she is such a giving and amazing woman, and you know, i just want to believe that she is doing this out of love, but just not takign everything into consideration...
  • imageMe&Mr.T:
    I think it is really insensitive of her. What if you do go into labor? Then you will be hours away from your husband and have to call someone to help you. How selfish of her!

    I completely agree with this and I'm really really sorry you're going through this at this point in your pregnancy. Honestly, I'd be yelling at my DH too, not just his mom. He's an adult and can speak for himself. It really sounds like you need him right now.

    I'm really sorry you're going through this and I hope you're feeling okay!

  • imageFuturemrssoll:
    I talked to him on the phone and he said he has been defending our family's decision to not come, and defending leaving Eli with me.  I feel bad but he sounds like he is enjoying his family time.  Its upsetting that she did not encourage him to be home with his wife who pretty much is on bed rest, haha. 

    SERIOUSLY! She is a MOTHER!! And the rest of your family, from what it sounds like, also have chidlren. Who in their right mind wouldn't 150% be supporting your decision right now?!?! Oh I would be LiVID!!! I'm so sorry that you're dealing with this right now, though:( It's the last thing you need to be worrying about! 

  • I think your husband is honestly a bit of a jerk for leaving you alone.  What a momma's boy, really!  Your MIL may be insensitive, but your husband is the one who should be there for you and worrying about you, not his frigging mother!
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  • My husband is not a jerk. ?I did tell him that he could and should go. ?He has been working since December with pretty much no days off, so he does need time to get away and have some relaxation. ?He did also make sure I would have some help. ?The MIL thing still makes me mad, and I wish he would have stayed home, but I did give him an option to go. ?
  • Plus, I think hes really missing us because he calls like every 2 hours, haha, which he never does when he goes away! ?I will be happy when hes home tomorrow night. ?I go to the doc on Friday to get checked out to make sure things have not really progressed. ?
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