I ruined DH's birthday

romigu

so here's a little background.  His father died when he was a baby and all he's had is pictures of his dad.  His mom also had a bunch of 8mm videos of them when Martin was a baby and before he was born but we haven't been able to see them because we didn't have an 8mm projector.  So for his birthday, I found an 8mm projector on ebay and gave it to him this morning.  Instead of him being excited to see the videos of his dad, he was miserable and started crying.  I tried to cheer him up and take him to the breakfast place I had planned but he was so upset that we left before eating.  Now he's locked in the bedroom and won't talk to me.  I feel horrible.  I don't even know what to say. 

MRSaphrodites

Oh wow, that really did seem like a thoughtful gift. Is it the first time he see's the video? I'm so sorry about the situation, it must be so hard for him. Don't feel bad, there is no way you could have imagine he would have reacted this way. It must just have been a lot of repressed emotions that just came out that were triggered by the video. Guess my only suggestion would be give him his space and once he comes around he will seek you out. Meanwhile get a hold of his mom and let him know maybe she can comfort him too and see how you can adjust the birthday plans. Best of luck and please keep us updated.

cocojack10

I too think it was a thoughtful gift, and I'm sure he'll come around.  I hope that his day gets better.

Ceventa

Oh no Rosanna, I think the gift was actually a great one! How could you have known that he would have reacted this way? I would have thought that he would have been really psyched about it too. Just give him a little bit of time and I'm sure that he'll eventually come out, give you a big hug and a kiss for being the thoughtful wife that you are, and sit down to watch the movies. If I were you, go out and get his favorite dessert too, I know when I'm bummed that helps.

southmiamiwifejen

I'm so sorry Your heart was definitely in the right place and I think it was a great gift. I understand why he's upset but I'm sure once he gets over the initial emotional reaction of seeing those film clips, he will agree that it was an amazing present and will thank you for it. Just give him some time...try to give him space for a little while but check in on him now and again to make sure he's okay. ((hugs))

julissa11

Wow - I'm sorry you have to go thru this.....just give him some space and hopefully he will come around and realize that you were just being thoughful.  Good luck and let us know what happens!

Melissa011983

awww I am so sorry this happened!! I think you had such a thoughtful idea!!  I think the others are right just give him a little space...

EliStar

Pobresita

I am so sorry he reacted that way! I wouldn't have expected that reaction either, don't feel bad - like the other girls said, just give him his personal space and let him get over it. He'll come around. Maybe you can re-do his birthday another day this week.