Would you get married on September 11?

molisar

One of my best friends is engaged and looking for a recpetion location.  She has looked at a ton of places and fell in love with one.  The only date they have available next summer is Saturday September 11.  She asked me for my opinion on the date but I don't have an opinion yet!  Would you get married on September 11 knowing it's a sad day in history?

j_hope

Ah...that's a tough call.  Personally, it's always going to be recognized as a sad day in history, but time continues to move on regardless.  My 16 yr. old brother's b-day is September 11th..and I feel bad for him every year now because there is such a stigma attached to that day.  He just wants to celebrate the year he was born like everyone else...but that's hard given the circumstances of what happened.  Babies continue to be born on that day....life continues, but it seems like people try to avoid that day at all costs because of what happened.  Personally, if your friend and her fiance could get past that day and recognize it as their wedding day without any stigma...I say go for it, but if it's always going to be something they are concerned about...or question...then they might want to look around.

exictedbride

I would as long as they do not have family or close friends that we affected personally by the tragedy (ex. lost a spouse/so, friend, etc.). The only way people will ever get past associating September 11th with a sad day is by being able to associate the day with something positive and happy.

One suggestion I would make though if your friend decides to go for it is to use the phrase 11th of September instead of September 11th on stationary and invitations.

Brewtowngrl

If it is for sept 11, 2010 I would probably do it.  If it is for 2011 I would not since there is bound to be a ton of press because it will be the 10 year anniversary. 

Charmeng

I'd probably ask family first, to see what they think. DH and I happened to start dating anniversary on the actual day of Columbine. So our first dating anniversary was the first anniversary of the Columbine shooting, and our 10 year anniversary was our 10 year anniversary for Columbine. It kinda sucked to have to share the day, but it wasn't that bad.

mellytexas

I would. I have 3 friends/relatives that share that birthday. I am with all of the other people that feel that the day should be turned into something positive.

G&D

That's such a tough one b/c it's a tragedy that is known almost primarily by it's date.  The attack on Pearl Harbor was December 7th, but if you hear somone say "December 7th" that's not what instantly springs to mind.  But if someone says "September 11th" that attack is. 

I like the perspective of turning that date into a positive like some of the girls mentioned, and if your friends are comfortable with doing that that's wonderful.  Personally I would choose another date. 

Ready4theParty

Brewtowngrl:

If it is for sept 11, 2010 I would probably do it.  If it is for 2011 I would not since there is bound to be a ton of press because it will be the 10 year anniversary. 

Ditto.  Although I do have a friend who is planning her wedding for 9-10-11 in La Crosse