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update on family thing.
meegs, i figured i'd just start a new post to answer you and kind of update about things rather than a long response in the friday post.
anyway, they didn't notice. we won't go out of our way to tell them beforehand, but there's a wedding in the family in two weeks that we'll all be at and frankly i doubt it'll be avoidable by then at the rate her belly's growing. yesterday was the first time she's even talked to her brother since january--which was before the cycle that worked, and although he didn't know we were trying led directly to the huge fiasco of an email exchange where he railed against us sinners and said that i would never be any part of his family, and declared that he wouldn't be an uncle to any of my children. since any children of hers are children of mine, we're not in any hurry to involve him in our son's life.
her parents won't tell him because the last time it came up with them he just kept going on about how horrible it is and how they shouldn't be okay with it, and they're sick of it. i think a lot of that was because that was when he found out (after the email exchange) that it was her who was going to be carrying and not me, which they had kind of all just assumed. it was easy for him to cast off any bio children that i might have and dismiss them, but i don't think he ever considered the possibility that it might be his own flesh and blood.
Re: update on family thing.
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hey - at least he in acknowledging that her child IS your child!
I am sorry he is being such a jerk. Hang in there!
thanks, ladies. i don't feel very amazing right now.
i wish he was acknowledging that. he said that before he know that she was going to be carrying, when he thought that i would be the one to bear any/all children that we have. we're the ones saying that they will be our children regardless of who carries them, and as far as we're concerned he will treat our children equally no matter who actually carries them. if he doesn't want to claim any that i carry, he doesn't get to claim any that she carries. simple as that.
and not at all simple. he will probably be passive-aggressive about it all, claim himself as uncle, and then refuse to acknowledge me as a parent. frustrating.