My Confession...

Sarah05102009

I just mailed out my thank you cards for my vow blessing and wedding. As bad as I feel for them taking 3 months, I feel that much better that they are done and on their way!

annabear07

No worries!  I don't think anyone will complain!  In my parent's social circles it is one year to get them out.  So I'd go by that rule.  Then you are way ahead of the curve.

 I say this because I too finally sent out my thank you notes today!

hrchic

We haven't sent ours out yet!  We're working on them now.  I've heard there is a 2-3 month "acceptable" time frame, so as long as we get them in the mail by the end of this month, we should be good!

Sarah05102009

Personally, I have heard that a couple has 3 months to send them out. When my grandmother didn't get her thank you card in the mail the week after the wedding, she called my parents to complain. 

Gah. At least they are done.  

Chrissy3321

I put ours in the mail this morning.  I really wanted to get them out at the 2 month mark, but H was a little slow on his.

I've always heard 2-3 months, so I think you are fine.

MrsJax09

We sent out our cards to people who gave a gift. Now we are working on the "thanks for coming to our wedding" cards. We wanted to wait a bit to include info about the pregnancy and now we are getting in congrats on the pregnancy cards. It is so sweet.

Huskerfanz

annabear07:

In my parent's social circles it is one year to get them out. 

I've heard 1 year to give a present to a bride and groom but I've never heard 1 year to thank someone.

shexmix

I've heard the same time frame, Sarah.  1 year to give, but 2-3 months to thank.  I've never understood where that 1 year came from and I think it's ridiculous. 

I got all the thank you notes out several weeks ago, and they were only for gifts.  For people who attended and didn't give so much as a card, H and I profusely thanked them in person for coming.  By the time I finished our TYs, we had 10 couples/family units who fit that category.  2 have sent us belated gifts and been properly thanked in writing.  1 more has confessed that she still has our gift at her house in the next state.  The other 7?  Nada.

Sarah05102009

I personally think it is disgustingly rude to come to a wedding and not give as much as a card. If you came to my wedding and didn't leave a card, you didn't get a thank you card. The meal and good times were enough, IMHO. 

Believe me, I understand what it means to be crunched for money. I really do. But it costs next to nothing to write a nice note on some paper wishing a couple a happy lifetime together. This is not an issue of being poor, it is an issue of having absolutely no tact whatsoever. I am still friends with the 10+ friends that did this at our wedding, don't get me wrong, but I still think it is a crappy thing to do. 

RoRo10733

I was on the ball with mine. I wrote them out the day after our wedding and  post them that Monday!! I didn't want to forget anyone (and which gift went w/ whom) so it was a lot easier for me to just get it done..fast! My friends always laugh at my very fast thank-you turn arounds.

annabear07

::Hands RoRo a cookie::

annabear07

Huskerfanz:

annabear07:

In my parent's social circles it is one year to get them out. 

I've heard 1 year to give a present to a bride and groom but I've never heard 1 year to thank someone.

Perhaps my mother is confused...oh well!  I got them out within 3 months...I guess I'm still good! 

jeffnstef

how strange I was just thinking today how I don't miss the stacks of thank you cards to write! good for you, they're all taken care of!

MuseumMaven

Congratulations!  Doesn't it feel good to get them done?

juliebug1997

I have never heard of writing a thank you note for coming to the wedding.  Now I wish I had.  Neither Bill's aunt nor his family's closest friends brought so much as a card of well wishes to our wedding.  We fed them three meals.  They could have brought a card for crying in the mud.

Kristi85

WOW!!  Sarah, geez!  O'well, people will still appreciate that you sent them!  Don't you feel better that you did?  

Chrissy3321

Sarah05102009:

I personally think it is disgustingly rude to come to a wedding and not give as much as a card. If you came to my wedding and didn't leave a card, you didn't get a thank you card. The meal and good times were enough, IMHO. 

Believe me, I understand what it means to be crunched for money. I really do. But it costs next to nothing to write a nice note on some paper wishing a couple a happy lifetime together. This is not an issue of being poor, it is an issue of having absolutely no tact whatsoever. I am still friends with the 10+ friends that did this at our wedding, don't get me wrong, but I still think it is a crappy thing to do. 

I agree with you Sarah.   We also had a handful of people who didn't even give us a card. 

I did want to send the 20 people who didn't show after rsvping "yes" a card thanking them for wasting our money. AHH SNAP