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:: starts slow golf clap::
Because the MN board confirmed all of my suspicions yesterday. Check out here and here. I don't know if I'm more upset about her deceit about her husband's job or about the TTTC part.
Those ladies husbands (and some of the ladies themselves) risk their lives to fight for our country.
I know that there are many girls on here who have husbands, family and friends in the military and there are also girls on here (or who lurk) who have had TTTC or who have had a loss before.
Lying always leads to nowhere...
C - if you're lurking... you need to get help. Serious. Because if you didn't lie and if you just were yourself you might just have friends who stay friends with you. I asked you directly about J's job... you said you'd PM me but never did.
I'm sure there's a whole lot more that you've lied to us about.
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Re: :: starts slow golf clap::
Sarah, lying about her husband's job was both the tip of the iceberg and a symptom of the problem. For her to pretend she was going through a deployment and then to pretend she was on IF meds having TTTC ... it's sick. Those are real problems that happen to real people, and they're honest struggles. The board is very supportive; there was no reason to lie. We already have several contractor wives, and even one girl who isn't connected to the military at all (she just hangs out!). People who lie for nothing more than the pleasure of lying need to be outted as untrustworthy, and they need to get help.
Thanks, Dani, for all your support.
I, too, thought he was a DOD civilian but she told me different here. I never got the PM she metioned.
ETA: SarahBear... I just don't want anyone else to have to deal with this after what has happened IRL and on the MN board
dani- i miss that thread! what a joke- she said he went on 2 deployments? is she f'ing kidding? who does she think she is making all this up? people have loved ones who go on REAL deployments and it's a huge sacrifice and strain on any family. what a terrible lie.
nelson was on deployment when we started dating.. what violation is she talking about? i OPENLY told everyone which ship he was on and where he was. ugh.
Yes, like I said, it looks like she was telling different stories on different boards and eventually couldn't keep it all straight. I agree that it's horrible when anyone lies about something, let alone big issues such as deployment & fertility problems.
Even though saying a country/world region is ok. Anyone would know that.
I'm with you though, she does need help, and I hope she gets it, I honestly do. I hope she finds what she's missing and is able to someday form honest relationships with other people.
I'm going to have to make a bit of clarification here. If her husband HAD truly been deployed (of course, he was actually only in DC for a few months), telling exact locations is an OPSEC violation (operational security). This website has more specifics, but in relation to this issue, OPSEC says, "Do not reveal camp locations, including nearby cities. After the deployment is officially announced by Military officials, you may discuss locations that have been released, normally on the Country level."
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Dani-I'm standing up with you and joining in the clap.
All I got to say? Karma is a b!tch.
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OK, I'm just going to put this out there......
I do more lurking than posting sometimes. And I read practically everything (and have been here awhile). SDSU always rubbed me the wrong way. Something didn't sit right with me when she posted, and I purposely avoided get togethers because she went. It seems like others had the same issue? For those that met her in real life was this a true assessment?
Anyway, I never said anything because it was more trouble than it was worth. But now I'm curious if I wasn't the only one on the local board.
Yes, SarahBear... true assessment.
But in all honesty I didn't catch on for a good year or so. It took my friends (also met at GTGs for the SD wedding board) to show me how much she's lied. She's told us about one of our friends having marital problems 3 months after they were married, she's claimed to be getting divorced and going to a divorce lawyer, etc...
You aren't the only one
We're out there...we just don't post as often.
BTW... love "seeing" you here!! Long time no chat
Dani-
I've been more of a lurker than a poster on here. Myabe that will change now. We need to all get together soon, I loved to meet all the new babies.
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That is an accurate assesment about her. When I first got on the Knot I could not believe the things she would post. After a few get togethers and meeting some of the girls, I thought..Hey, maybe she's not that bad if everyone else talks to her. I have really enjoyed meeting the girls on here but the more I read, and the more I talked to "C" IRL I realized she is just how she comes across online. I have kept my comments to myself for the longest but this situation is the straw that broke the camel's back. I think there are alot of us on here that feel the same way.
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Sarah-I'm with you. She always rubbed me the wrong way, and literally stalked me on another board which was creepy...I avoided GTG's too because of the same reason. I went to one about 1 1/2 years ago that she wasn't at, and everyone was very nice.
I kinda feel bad, but on the other hand I don't. She's weaved her own web and got caught up in it. If she's lying to people online, I can't imagine what the rest of her life is...please get some help.
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Hi girls!!! Just wanted to say that your perception is good. She can be VERY mean online, in person she'll be (or try to be) the sweetest girl ever, but then you start to notice all her lies (sometimes innocent, sometimes not, most of the times just to get extra attention) and she starts talking sh!t behind her "friend's" back... That's why I asked her to remove the pictures of me from her bio and why now there are black circles over, because I was embarrased that people would think we are friends (after all the mean comments she made and knowing who she really is). The only thing left I have to say is that, yes, we went to her wedding, and I realized that she has NO girlfriends... that, to me, says A LOT about a person.
I truly hope she seeks help, but she'll probably think that WE are wrong and we're the mean ones... Oh well...
I haven't been on here for something like a year...but this warrants a post. I wholeheartedly join in clapping with you girls.
Thanks, Dani.
Nice to see the rest of you girls, by the way.
I have to say the girls on the MN boards figured it faster than we did, and it even took me awhile to figure it out even after a couple other Nesties brought things to my attention. The lie (shi! talking) she did behind one of our friend's back (Dani mentioned it) was the real eye opener to me. Who does that?
Anyway, I don't want to beat a dead horse since I've already talked to her IRL before our friendship ended and she knows how I feel, but everyone's perceptions are dead on.
Everything in life is a learning experience. C, I hope that you have learned from both experiences here and grow from it. I'm with Amanda, I hope you get some help and figure out where this all stems from.
Oh yeah, I totally agree with Alanna!!! It's good to see you all here!!! I've missed you
First off, good to see you ladies. I never check this board and I am thankful that I did.
C, like the other have said, I truly hope that you get help. I know there has to be a good person somewhere inside of you, there is never a need to lie to have people feel "sorry" for you or to create a situation that you ideally would like to be in. I to have found your stories off, but with a better judgement have given you the benefit of the doubt. But this really takes the cake, you created a mess for yourself, and if you ever want to be happy with yourself you need to clean this up. Good luck.
It's nice to be back on the board, although this is a crazy circumstance. It took me a long time to see what was going on too, at first it was hard to believe when the other ladies pointed it out to me, but I'm glad I didn't doubt them in the end. The strangeness is something I definitely noticed after a while too...glad to know that so many others felt the same way. I think I might be able to hang out on here more now.
Cristin, I'm sad that you've ended up in this situation. You certainly dug your own hole, but something must've happened to you earlier in your life that led to you interacting with others this way. I used to have trouble making friends with women, but these ladies are all so warm and open they've made it easy for me. You squandered a great opportunity. But thanks for introducing all of us. Also, we may have the same birthday, but we have very little in common besides that. Good luck and please, get help. I know a lot of therapists if you need referrals.
it's about time!