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Need help planning my vacations - long
I can't seem to make any decisions lately and I need to make some major ones regarding vacations. Please help - here's the background.
I'm supposed to go home in October for a wedding (which I'm in). The plan was to be in CA from Wed-Wed. I would spend 3 days at the wedding, 2 in my hometown, and then 1 with K's family telling them we're expecting.
My mom wants to fly K and I in for Thanksgiving. For the first time in about 10 years my uncle and cousins and will be celebrating Thanksgiving with my family. K and I could fly in the Wed prior to Thanksgiving and out on that Sunday. Or I could elimate 3 days from my October trip and add them to this trip to come in the Saturday before.
Last night I'm talking to my mom and she brings up having a baby shower. I know family isn't supposed to throw the shower, and my bff would most likely do most of the planning with my mom. My mom didn't get to do a bridal shower or engagement party so I think this is important to her. These parties are always a big deal in my family.
So.....we could have the shower the Saturday after Thanksgiving when K and I are out there.....but....here's the problem. All of K's family will be flying to NY a week later for K's graduation. So do we ask them to drive 3 hours for a shower and then fly to NY? Do we just celebrate with them when they get to NY?
I'm so confused and honestly my mind has been so cloudy lately I can't decide on anything! Is this really want they mean by pregnancy brain? Ugh.
On top of this K is really stressed about getting her dissertation turned in by December 1st. So is going home Nov 25-29 really the smartest thing to do when she will likely still need to be writing?
Oh and November is likely to be the last month I would fly since I won't fly in my 3rd Tri (Jan) and I don't like flying dinner winter/snow. What do I do?
Re: Need help planning my vacations - long
I'd definitely go home for thanksgiving - it sounds like its really important to your mom and it'll be your last trip home for a while, and i know how much you love getting to visit home, so why not? And since its closer to K's dissertation deadline, id keep that trip shorter, and the October trip with the extra days.
And I'd also do your shower the saturday after thanksgiving - invite K's family and let them decide if they can make the trip so close to heading out to NY. If they decide they cant make it, then you can celebrate with them seperately when they are out here!
and fwiw, in our circle, family (specifically moms or mils) almost always host the baby showers so i wouldnt see anythign wrong with that.
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I would like to ditto CT 100% That is exactly what I was thinking!
...and I'm glad that family throws showers in your family, CT - I was like wait...family not supposed to throw them??? I had no idea! LOL
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tritto!
and it's also quite common here for family to host showers. maybe it's a regional thing? interesting...
I'm also saying, "What CT said!!" :-)
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I agree with the pp, add more time to the October trip and make sure to have a great Thankgiving with your family.
I have never heard of mom's/family NOT throwing the shower, hmmm.
I would let them have the option of either driving or just waiting for the NY trip.
That was what I was going to say too!
And here I think there is some weirdness about families throwing showers for non-family members, so most people I know either have two (family shower and friend shower) or have one thrown by a friend. Interesting.
ditto, all the way!