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Sometimes I hate other Boards.
Tonight, I hate the pets board. I posted the post about Rob getting bitten by our dog and one of the posters got a little snippy with me... nothing major, but enough to set me off. And it isn't the first time that has happened to me on the Pets board. It's like... if you're not a regular, you get on and people just assume you're some idiot careless pet owner who doesn't know anything about anything. I feel like I have to put a disclaimer on there... "Please note, I am a good dog mom. We walk them for 40 minutes a day, my husband comes home to let them out at lunch, we feed them decent food, we don't over-spoil them, we have pet insurance and recently spent $900 on removing a mast cell tumor from our 12 year old dog. So please don't treat me like I'm some monster." Maybe if I used that disclaimer, I'd get a better response. Grrrr... OK, rant over.
Re: Sometimes I hate other Boards.
I did ask for opinions and really appreciated most of the responses I got. I did not ask for people to be rude and presumptuous and insensitive, however. I don't care if someone has a different opinon than mine. In fact, I expect it- I've been around on the Knot/Nest long enough to know this. I *DO* expect people to actually read a post if they're going to reply and have at least present their opinons with respect.
Also, my apologies for "tattling" on another board if it is not etiquette. I was just venting and wondered if anyone else had frustrations about other boards (be they here or other message boards.)
I guess it's just not my night for message boards. On that note, I'm off to bed.
Again, Kelly I'm sorry! It is an open forum for opinions and views and sometimes people can be a little harsh in those views and opinions. It's just hard to read those things when you are already going through a difficult situation. Sometimes, you just want a little support even if it from a stranger!
Also, I have never about the tattling faux pas. I guess I just always thought if you put something on one of the boards, you are posting on a internet forum which means it can end up anywhere. Whatever.
Hang in there Kelly!
I agree, some of those other boards are just down right snarky and mean. And I don't think you were tattleing, you were venting your frustration on a board where you know people aren't snarky (most of us anyway.)
Sorry about the bite, OUCH!!
I'm with ISU - I'm a regular over there and you.would.NOT.believe the sh!t that gets posted on that board. We regularly deal with pregnant women getting rid of pets or owners dealing with misfit dogs that just didn't train them.
A disclaimer would help - and I'll vouch for ya too!
I guess I didn't think their responses were too bad and they were pointing out the obvious based on what you posted. I'm a little insulted that you thought of euthing him right away, especially given everything you've gone through with Schumi.
The one thing I don't have to deal with with Petey is resource guarding, but our current foster Candy has issues with it. I would definitely talk to the vet in person about Henry and see if he has anything physically wrong with him. Also work on NILIF and resource guarding. YH didn't deal with it correctly and he needs to be upset with himself, as well as Henry (to quote a Pets poster - he was warned).
If I can live with Petey being fear aggressive and work on his biting issues, you can work out Henry's resource guarding and feel safe in your own home!!!
You have my email - email me if you need help with anything! Ebeth
I will email you Elisabeth, but I just feel like I have to say in defense of myself that I NEVER THOUGHT OF EUTHING HIM RIGHT AWAY. Ever. Never. *ROB* did (as that has always been his house 'rule' through fosters and all of our dogs), but that.was.not.my.first.thought!
That was my main problem with the posters was their presumption that it was my first instinct. Nope-- as I said to the one I was really peeved off about, my first instinct was to ask ROB what he did wrong to provoke him. My second thought was that he's finally gone totally senile. Since you're the second person who assumed this (and I *know* you're not a jerk), maybe I just worded it wrong in my original post.
Also, I've looked into NILIF, but don't really like the concept. I understand it's based on instinct and can see the value in it and don't argue that it probably works great for some/most... but I don't think it's for me. I like it when my puppy nuzzles me for attention. Call me selfish, I don't care.
Our vet call didn't work out today, unfortunately. I'll be talking to Rob when he gets back from his midterm tonight about next steps. A lot of this will be what *he* is comfortable with since he was the one that was bitten. I have to respect his feelings.
I am so frustrated talking about this on the boards again today... I feel like everyone is like, "you're wrong. you're stupid. you're not trying hard enough."
When a person is bitten and requires emergency response, it's not as if the dog is just being a nuisance or bother. It's a big deal- medically, mentally and otherwise.
oh, Kelly, we love you! *hugs* Shake off them haters
I agree that some boards can be seriously snarky. I feel like the Indy board is the least snarky, and I hope you don't feel like (despite one lurker's comment) you can't vent here!!!