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okay, you BNOTBers who are teetering on BOTB
let's play an "ask me anything BR" game. seems like losing "me" time and the image of a screaming baby are pretty widespread thoughts, and since i'm proclaiming myself the official old lady of the board, i'd love to help if i can.
most of you are pretty familiar with my life, but if there's anything you're curious about that i haven't talked/blogged/tweeted/FB'd/nested about (holy crap, does anything like that even exist??), i'm an open book.
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After 2 rounds of IVF & 2 rounds of FET, we were blessed with identical twin girls!
Everything you have shared about motherhood is inspirational to me in terms of a woman balancing "me" time and "mom" time. My biggest fear is becoming that person whose friends want to submit her to STFU parents.
Ooh, here's a question for you: How has Operation Downsize been going in terms of all the stuff that children seem to need/have? With the market the way it is, we're going to be in our 2 bedroom condo for longer than planned. It already feels cramped sometimes, so the thought of adding more stuff makes my head spin.
oh yes, this. I am a grumpy b!tch when I don't sleep well, which is often.
This. I imagine it might make me cranky and bitter and awful to be around. I'm worried I'll start bickering with my husband.
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Maybe this is my issue!!!!!
For me, the first 4 months were pure hell as far as sleep was concerned. After that, things got better by the week. Of course, now that I could technically get a good night of sleep, I am preg again, and reverting back to the beginning....I am not looking forward to that aspect of things. However, 4 months in the grand scheme of life, is not that much (although at the time, that was not my mentality)
I technically gave those up when I got married, so that was never a consideration in when to have one of my own.
To answer your question though, I miss it everytime I leave the house and have to gather up bags of things just to go to the store for 20 minutes. (snacks, water, diapers, random selection of toys, blah blah).
But then comes the whole question of is it all worth it?
Life is just different now. I know I certainly can't live my life like I did in my 20's for the rest of my years. I wouldn't make it that long.
I'm going to chime in here, even though I don't post regularly...
On the sleep issue- I was one of those people who turns into a raving b!tch when I don't get enough sleep. I have been tired the last 3 months, but it really hasn't been that bad. But, I have a VERY easy baby who sleeps regularly.
I have consistently gotten 6 hours of solid sleep a night. (in the beginning, DH would do one of the feedings so I could sleep and now the baby only gets up once.) I'm not as bitchy as I would have thought... althoug DH may have a different response than that.
OK I have a question:
What changed relationship wise between you and the hubs pre-baby? I know eveyone is different and so is every relationship but- everyone says.. everything changes in your relationship.
How? Give me the ugly woman!
to be honest, OD started after we'd bought most of the big stuff. but if it hadn't, i'd really just have shifted gears and adjusted my "must-haves" to fit my "can-have." like, the stroller wouldn't have been quinny, and probably not two. the breast pump might not have been medela. and there would have been a lot less baby gap and gymboree. but it's all doable, even if we had to do it now.
yes.
i won't lie, the first month was pretty hellish for sleep. if you're nursing, you have to feed every 2-3 hours around the clock in order to build up your supply, and that time is such a blur in my head. but it was worth it, especially after i learned how to nurse laying down.
although that's kind of been my downfall in the current "operation wean the bean." i relied on it so much because we were getting a fantastic night's sleep that now it's hard to get her off of "mom's a human pacifier" mode. but it's working, at last.
well, i've been a mom for 14 years now, so the CF days are so far in the past that i don't remember NOT being a mom. but because my girls are actually super easy to tote everywhere, i haven't had to miss those days. and when we want to go somewhere that isn't kid-friendly, we have lots of family willing to hang out with them so we can.
relationship-wise? really, not a lot. we've pretty much been a family with the teen since day one (when she was five), so adding the bean really didn't change a whole lot. i've had to deal with his anal tendencies with things like food and stuff like that, and he's had to maintain his cool with my more cavalier ways. it's just compromise and communication, just like any other aspect you face in life and marriage.
Mine is a pg related question.
When does the wretched nausea stop? I am contemplating hooking myself up to a sprite IV.
i was one of those luckybiitches who didn't deal with much nausea/morning sickness, but the weird food aversions i had with the bean went away somewhere in the fourth month.
You are so lucky. I haven't thrown up at all but I feel on the verge almost all the time.
because the hub is awesome about making himself available just about anytime i want/need to be with friends, i haven't had any issues at all. and a lot of my friends ARE CF, but because i don't necessarily eat/sleep/breathe/live all for my girls, i think i've managed to maintain those relationships without alienating them...too much
we don't have a lot of couple friends, so i guess i can't really comment on that. the couples we do hang out with are CF, but they are always okay with us having one or both girls with us. and if we're going somewhere not kid-friendly, it's not an issue for us to leave them with the ILs or other family.
Sorry to but in...but while I only threw up a few times in first trimester I felt like asss most of the time. It lasted until I was about 14 or 15 weeks...then I was able to eat normally again. Sorry you are feeling so sick....that was SO not fun!!
I am still going strong with the all-day m/s at almost 16 weeks. Yay! =/
After 2 rounds of IVF & 2 rounds of FET, we were blessed with identical twin girls!
I am so sorry you two! I haven't had to deal with it at all, only loss of appetite and random food aversions. I hope it gets better soon.
Butting in as well - my M/S started to taper off around weeks 15 & 16, to where I didn't feel generally like ass and the vomiting wasn't out-of-control. Some ladies are luckier than other.
Socializing foster puppies since 2009
Chart for TTC#2 - BFP 6.10.12, m/c 6.17.12 @ 4w3d ? BFP 7.14.12, EDD 3.27.13
Beta @ 15DPO: 441, P: 15.1 ? 19DPO: 2,784 ? 26DPO: 28,886 ? U/S 8/2: One happy HB!
Elective U/S @ 15w5d - it's a BOY! Confirmed at 19w6d. ?
Lurking here. Yes, I had a 2nd degree tear. Not pleasant, but no lasting effects. Recovery took about 8 weeks.
Lurking here. Yes, I had a 2nd degree tear. Not pleasant, but no lasting effects. Recovery took about 8 weeks.
Lurking here. Yes, I had a 2nd degree tear. Not pleasant, but no lasting effects. Recovery took about 8 weeks.