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Vent: family and gift giving
So one of my SIL's b day is tomorrow. When I asked her what she wants for her b day she said, "money- cause we're poor." 
(she just quit her job because they were treating her awful and she's expecting her second child)
Dude- I don't like giving people money.. like as a specific amount. I rather they tell me something they want or maybe a particular store they'd like a gc for instead.
I just feel awkward throwing money in a card. I always wonder if I gave them enough or too much?
Furthermore- SIL is kind of ... (simple/err, boring)? She doesn't like any specialty stores or have any real hobbies or intrests other than her kid. (seriously, I'm not being biotchy or mean I swear)
I know the default GC for that is Target. But she asked for money specifically- and now I feel all awkward about it. Arg.
Re: Vent: family and gift giving
I would just give her money if that's what she asked for.
Our family hasn't really exchanged gifts for any occasion for a very long time. The only exception was our wedding. My father, mother, and brother all gave us cash.
I don't have a problem giving (or receiving) money.
We don't usually do birthday gifts anymore, but every two years or so my ILs randomly throw in some cash with my birthday card and I have no problem accepting it ;-)
Anyway, if you don't feel comfortable giving cash, then a GC to Target sounds fine. You can buy practically everything at Target. Otherwise, maybe a GC for Visa or something?
i totally get how that can be awkward, since it isn't the norm.
honestly, knowing they really need it, just give her some cash. give what you can afford and i'm sure it'll be appreciated.
btw, "too much" is impossible.