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advice needed... akward thing with coworker
Sorry if this is very long:
Yesterday was my original due date. I was bummed, but not depressed or anything. I put a little status thing on facebook that said, "sept 13. date unfulfilled."... but that was it. My closest friends knew what that meant, no one else needed to.
My coworker, who I am very close to (we joke that she's my "work mom") saw that and freaked out. She's always protective of me, but she definitely overreacted to what I considered a pretty blase note, especially since she knew about my miscarriage and we had talked just last week about my original due date being this weekend. Called my other coworker, talked to her husband (aka my boss), and texted me frantically. She apparently thought I had lost this baby?
Today I told her that next time she needs to not assume the worst, call me instead of someone else, and give me time to respond (I posted that and went to bed at 1am, so I wasn't up at 7am when she texted). I wasn't mad or mean, just said that I promise if something happened with this baby I wasn't going to be cryptic about it, and that she needs to not worry so much about me (frankly, its overwhelming sometimes, though I didn't say that).
Now she seems really pissed off that I was annoyed, left my office in a huff, and I'm not sure what to say to her. I'm not going to act like I feel like her reaction was appropriate (the other coworker also thought she way overreacted), but I thought that asking her to call me first next time was a fine way to respond. What would you do?
Yesterday was my original due date. I was bummed, but not depressed or anything. I put a little status thing on facebook that said, "sept 13. date unfulfilled."... but that was it. My closest friends knew what that meant, no one else needed to.
My coworker, who I am very close to (we joke that she's my "work mom") saw that and freaked out. She's always protective of me, but she definitely overreacted to what I considered a pretty blase note, especially since she knew about my miscarriage and we had talked just last week about my original due date being this weekend. Called my other coworker, talked to her husband (aka my boss), and texted me frantically. She apparently thought I had lost this baby?
Today I told her that next time she needs to not assume the worst, call me instead of someone else, and give me time to respond (I posted that and went to bed at 1am, so I wasn't up at 7am when she texted). I wasn't mad or mean, just said that I promise if something happened with this baby I wasn't going to be cryptic about it, and that she needs to not worry so much about me (frankly, its overwhelming sometimes, though I didn't say that).
Now she seems really pissed off that I was annoyed, left my office in a huff, and I'm not sure what to say to her. I'm not going to act like I feel like her reaction was appropriate (the other coworker also thought she way overreacted), but I thought that asking her to call me first next time was a fine way to respond. What would you do?
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Re: advice needed... akward thing with coworker
sahm ~ toddler breastfeeder ~ cloth diaperer ~ baby wearer
I think you handled the situation very well, and if you give her a little time and space, she'll come around. From my experience the pattern of: fear, realizing you overreacted, followed by anger is pretty normal - DW has reacted very similarly in comparable situations.
Not that what she did was right...she definitely did overreact and handled her fear inappropriatly...but, i understand the emotions. My guess is that you two will be back to normal in no time (hopefully with a bit of a lesson learned for her).
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I know she overstepped and made things awkward but it is nice that she cares so much about you. I think Mrs._F is right, you said what was on your mind and if you act like it's done and over she will follow suit.
Sorry your week started out like this.
So I went to her and told her that I didn't want her to be upset. I'm not mad at her, I just didn't understand why she thought I wouldn't let her know if something big and horrible happened. That I had always in the past let her know immediately if something happened, and promised that at no time would she get bad news from me on facebook. At that point she seemed to understand where I was coming from... and as far as I'm concerned its over, and I'm just going to interact as normal with her.
Thanks for the understanding guys! I hate when things get akward.
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I'm late but just wanted to say I'm glad things are back to normal!