BR

JanetPlanet20

My cousin and his wife got married 2 weeks before my H and I (April 2008). I just found out this weekend through Facebook that she is 14 weeks pregnant.  As soon as I saw her ultrasound pic, I burst out crying and cried for awhile about it.

My H and I aren't trying yet, but it really made me sad. I want a baby SO bad, but we have decided to wait until this coming spring to begin trying, so we can pay down debt before bringing a baby into our lives.

In the interest of full disclosure, I also don't like my cousin's wife very much. She rubs me the wrong way. 

Has anyone else ever felt like this?

 

klmbride05

Actually...yeah. I get jealous from time to time. We had friends that got engaged at the same time as us but married a year before us (we took a 15 months to plan, they took 5). Anyway...they got pg with their first and I got really jealous. But it turned out that both of us were pg at the same time (her #2 and my #1). I got over it. Don't worry...you will too.

lorik0428

Oh yeah...I've definitely felt that way!  I have to close friends who are pg now and while C and I know we don't want anymore, there's still a tinge of jealousy that they are having babies while my "baby" is getting so big.  

It was MUCH worse when C and I were trying and couldn't get pg...it seemed like everyone around me was getting pg without even trying and we were going into major debt to do it and it failed anyway.   

JanetPlanet20

I am glad I am not the only one! I know we are doing the right thing by waiting for the time that is right for us, but I can't help but feel jealous! Thanks for responding.

mrsmj2008

You're not the only one, I had a blog post not that long ago about this very subject (link in siggy if you feel like reading)

Ggwenz

you are definitely not alone on this while we were ttc i was so jealous of a friend of mine who never had issues getting pregnant and i was jealous of the random young teenagers who were pregnant...as how can some people who don't want to be pregnant get pregnant so easily while others who want to get pregnant struggle??  i was so jealous and frustrated so it is very normal to be jealous

Ladykat42

The thing is wanting a baby and trying to have a baby is one of the most complicated series of emotions you'll go through. It's too much to tell yourself that you should or shouldn't feel a certain way. You are going to feel sad and jealous for yourself and happy for them at the same time. Nothing wrong with that.

sweettalkin417

You're not alone.

::hugs::