What is with snotty replies?

HawaiiLover

I have been reading some posts on other pages (Money Matters, Family Matters, etc.) and some of the replies ladies give are terrible.  I must have missed the memo to pick on people that ask for help or post issues.  I guess they never learned the golden rule of having nothing nice to say

That's why I love this page

Future Mrs.Amador

It's because they hide behind their computers. They would never say that kind of stuff IRL and can get away with it online. I think it's completely uncalled for as well but it never fails, someone's going to be a total biitch to make themselves feel better!

HawaiiLover

I totally agree.  It's really a shame that some of these ladies are so sad and bitter.  I would never say some of the things they do.  It's really disgusting, truely lives up to the old stereotype of women being nasty, bitchy and catty towards each other.  Sad, sad.

cnj050607

Tha *majority* of the women on the national boards are very snarky. They like to think they are better then EVERYONE else and stop at nothing to try to prove that.... I dont visit national boards because I dont want a third degree about every little thing!

jj4ever04

i agree most of the other boards are snarky. The only other national board i frequent is "getting pregnant" the nest side the bump side is a bunch of       b!tches. but the nests GP is full of nice polite and helpful women

irlndsumer

I only go to Decorating, Getting Pregnant, Fashion and Health.  Every other board seems really snarky, and I don't like it.

mzjackson

They have their clicks, and think it's funny to make fun of other people. It's like high school, but worse. Let's grow up people.

Agentmysterycat@hotmail.com

I would have to disagree with you ladies.

I frequent Whats Cooking, Deco & reno, Pets and sometimes the craft board and all of those ladies on there are very friendly and helpful.

I honestly don tlike it when people sugar coat things, I like honesty and sometimes honesty isnt always nice. I HATE when people are fake nice. Telling people that something looks good or is a good idea when it really isnt because they dont want to say what they mean because its not nice or what they think the other person wants to hear.

 

Future Mrs.Amador

Agentmysterycat@hotmail.com:

 Telling people that something looks good or is a good idea when it really isnt because they dont want to say what they mean because its not nice or what they think the other person wants to hear.

I agree that they should tell the truth but they def. don't say it (a lot of the times) in a nice way. Some people just say mean things to be biitches. And I've really only come across that on the national boards so I don't post on them. You can tell someone you don't like it without being a total BIITCH!

Agentmysterycat@hotmail.com

I honestly think that people read into things way to much over the internet. There is no way to hear the "tone" that someone intends their comments to be read.

Like the way you cap BIITCH at the end of your post after quoting what I said might look like you are directing that biiitchy comment towards me.... thats how things get mis read and misunderstood and then drama insues.

ahhhh the innerwebs. Its a love/hate thing

Future Mrs.Amador

Yeah, I guess I can see that! (that BIITCH wasn't directed towards you, btw).

Agentmysterycat@hotmail.com

cjwilli2

I see both sides. 

I definitely have seen some un-necessary snark.  AKA Advice from Brides being changed to the Snarky Brides board.  Those ladies could be vile sometimes. 

I do agree though that people hide behind their computers.  In some ways, everyone does that.  The interwebs change tones, enhance personality and overall make people seem a way that they probably aren't in person. 

Some snark is fun in my book.  It can be a little monotonous if everyone is always putting their smile face on and tippy toeing around posts.  I don't take things seriously when they get dramatic on the boards.  It's inevitable, and you just have to roll with the punches. 

Agentmysterycat@hotmail.com

I PINK PUFFY HEART YOU JAYE!

cjwilli2

Agentmysterycat@hotmail.com:

I PINK PUFFY HEART YOU JAYE!

I guess my major thing is...snark to be intentionally cruel is uncalled for.  But snark that is just someone unleashing their inhibitions, I like.

Heck...there were way too many times I saw posts while wedding planning where people would vent about their parents not helping them pay for their wedding, or about asking for cash gifts.  I'm sorry, but I could never/would never hold back my true colours on those subject (and a few others).  If someone is being inconsiderate, I'm going to tell them, and I'll tell them the way I mean to.  Not in a nice way to make them feel justification. 

In my everyday life, there are few people I can count on to tell me HOW IT IS without holding back.  But I can always count on the interwebs for honesty.  It grounds me. 

HawaiiLover

I totally agree.  Gosh, if I had this site while wedding planning I would have been complaining about people and things a lot   And you are right, should defintitely tell people when they are wrong or something doesn't work for them.  I would appreciate that if I were the person asking advice, it's nice to get honest, truthful opinions.  But lately, and it's only been on the national pages, women have been getting nasty....like serious name calling and putting down of people.  That is uncalled for.  If someone feels the need to do that, they really should reconsider posting anything and looking at why they need to be bitches.  There is a constructive way of responding to people and a hurtful way.  I think some of these ladies lean towards hurtful.....not cool.