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F/U to yesterday's post: Being married "feels" different....
So in the discussion with BF about yesterday issue she brought up how she agrees with her friend. BF has had a rough year so it was expected.
Anyway, she started saying how marriage doesn't mean s*** it's just a piece of paper legalizing it and now you can file taxes together.
I'm an uber romantic and I was raised by my grandparents who have been together since they were 16 (they are 75 & 76 now). So to me marriage has always been this sacred institution and divorce just simply isn't an option (unless of course he beats the crap out of you etc.) . I think couple now-a-days give up way too easily. She said the "usually when you try to make something good better you f*** it all up"
I tried to explain that being married is different. It's not really the same as when were just bf/gf and living together. Something changes....I really can't explain it. Apparently I'm dillusional and arguing because I'm trying to make something seem beter than it really is to make my self feel better about the fact that I chose to get married.
I've spoken to other married girls before who have agreed. It's almost like something in the "air" is different. I'm guessing it's the same when a married couple has a baby and it changes their relationship. They feel more united.
Does this make sense?
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Re: F/U to yesterday's post: Being married "feels" different....
I totally and completely agree with you!
There's no use fighting it... sometimes when people get something stuck in their head, it has to be like that no matter what... and nothing that you say or do will ever change their opinion. Maybe your friend will meet someone who will prove her wrong, and then she'll have to eat her words.
I would have to agree with you, and this comes from a not very romantic person who dated my DH for a decade before getting married.
It is something different in the air. We are more united. We are in this together.
You aren't crazy. They just don't know cause they are ignorant or jaded.
I would have to totally agree....I guess it just seems like now it's him and I against the world! The fact that we decided to go thru this thing called "life" together and to face things head on. When your bf/gf your just a couple...but being married...your a "team".
That's how I see it anyway!
Totally agree, my friend. While DH and I were great as bf/gf, since we've been married, our connection and bond has grown infinitely stronger. We are in everything together. We're unbreakable. It's just different.
And yes, it's very hard to verbalize how it's different! Who cares? You just don't understand it until you're married.
I agree that it's annoying when people make the negative comments about marriage. There is a difference and like you I too feel divorce isn't an option.?
Though sometimes when people post on how wonderful it is it could go the same way. I've been with DH for almost 10 years now and while I love him and think our lives are amazing, it takes a lot of hard work. Some days are definitely better than others.?
Get what I mean??