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Called Off Weddings
For those of you who know someone who has called of their wedding (or, maybe if you did in the past) - how did they/you do it? How did they/you make sure all the guests found out?
A friend of mine just called off his wedding. They each basically told key people close to them, and then asked those people to spread the word. For example, my friend told me, so I told my mom (who was invited) and a friend of ours from high school; then she told her parents. (Etc. etc. etc.)
Today we were talking about it and she asked me if they had called it off "for sure". I said yes. She said her parents were just curious since it was all spread sort of like telephone if they were going to make some type of "official" announcement (Don't get me wrong -- they were optimistically curious; they hoped since they had only heard via this weird word-of-mouth that maybe the couple had reconciled and the wedding was going forward after all...)
Just curious as to what ettiquette says, how you may have seen it handled, etc.
Re: Called Off Weddings
I heard a story from the lady that did my hair for the wedding. She was in a bunch of weddings this past summer, and consequently also did the brides' hair.
Anyway, she told me this story about one of her good friends who got left at the alter. The bride's soon-to-be DH bailed with his dad on a plane to god-knows-where and stb DH's mom had to go and tell the bride, who was all dolled up and ready to walk down the aisle. This happened about an hour or so before the vows. Yikes!
Needless to say, it was kind of an awkward situation. I think the bride's parents came out to let everyone know what had happened.
I got the update on this story about a month ago, and apparently the bride had dumped all of her friends because they were pissed she was trying to work things out with him. That's a story for the TIP board if I ever heard one.
Lucy Elizabeth 10.27.12
Wow, that is awful and so sad
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I don't have any experience with called-off weddings because our wedding was the first in my circle of friends and one of the first in my H's. However, we were good friends with a couple who dated since freshman year of college, got engaged a year after they graduated, and he subsequently cheated on her during the engagement and right before their wedding in June '08. He even freaked out the night before the wedding that he was making this "huge mistake" and CALLED THE OTHER WOMAN ON THEIR HONEYMOON and his poor wife had NO CLUE. He eventually told her a few months later, and after counseling and him telling her that it was over, he still continued to cheat. They're getting divorced now and she moved back home, out of state. I feel so terrible for her and about how the stupid jerk treated her. They were still married but going through all this stuff when our STDs went out, but by the time our invites went out, she was moving back home, so my H had to tell him that we didn't feel comfortable inviting him to the wedding (he is STILL with the other woman). He understood and even wrote me a whole long email apologizing about hurting my friend. I never wrote back because I was so disgusted with him.
Our good friend called off his wedding 2 days before his wedding and then went on the honeymoon with his BM as a "single guys week", haha! It was honestly for the best, she was horrible. She had put the entire wedding on credit cards and was planning to pay it off with his money but never told him that (his parents had died so he had inherited a lot).
She sued him over the bill, but he won since she had lied to him all along and claimed her parents were paying for it...
With it being too late to mail any notice out, he and his BM called everyone on his side and his fiance and her MOH called everyone on her side to inform them.
My MOH's first wedding was called off the day before the wedding. Since it was such short notice, all the people on the bride's side were called and informed. No one cared abouut the groom's side since he pulled the plug. The "reception" still carried on but as a party. They had people that had flown in from out of state. At that point, it was $30,000 down the drain or at least get your $$ worth. So, only the bride's family and friends went.