post wedding sadness

bonjourbelle05

Hi girls....so this is half vent/half please tell me there isn't something wrong with me.  I got married about 2 months ago and I am really happy with married life and love my DH very much.  We bought a house in May and I have been settled into my job for a while now...and now I have this overwhelming feeling that everything there is to look forward to is over for me.  I know deep down it's not true, but DH just got offered a brand new job, which is exactly what he has been hoping for and my sister is getting married in a year and picked out her wedding dress this weekend.  I don't know what my deal is...maybe we did too much this year with the wedding and the house.  I am reluctant to say anything to DH or anyone else because I don't want to upset them when they have such wonderful things to celebrate.  I just feel like I will not going to have anything to look forward to again....did this happen to anyone else or is it just me??  If it did happen to you any suggestions for how to help it pass without so much crying (PS-totally bawling just typing this....)

TIA

beth&anth

You are not alone in the post wedding blues.  I remember feeling sad after our wedding.  I was just talking with one of my co-workers who got married a couple of weeks ago- she is going through it as well.  You put so much into the wedding and then it is suddenly over.  You will get through it- just give yourself time and don't feel bad for feeling sad! 

njbrowneyedgrl74

I'm sorry you're feeling so sad, but you have a whole life together to look forward to.  Whether it's having children or traveling or decorating your new home, there are so many wonderful things ahead.  Yes the wedding was fun and exciting, but it was just one day(most would love to do it all over again).  Now enjoy the marriage!

Lisa Beth

Jliongrrrl

There is def an emptiness post wedding. So much of your time and efforts are going into that one day that when it's over you don't know what to do with yourself. 

Hang in there and try something new. Join a gym, start a new craft hobby, get involved in something that gives you purpose and I think you'll feel better. 

TheLinkBride

I think that can be a very normal feeling.  People have different reactions, some just move on and are happy to no longer have things to do, but for me I felt like I didn't have anything else to put my energy and time into.  I was going from thing to thing and it was difficult not to be sad that it was over, even though we had a great day.

I've accepted now though that I need things to research and plan, it makes me happy.

RaeAnt

I remember reading post after post of post-wedding depressed brides. You spend all that time and energy planning for something; one of the biggest moments in your life it's only natural that you feel let down and depressed.

Hang in there. It does get better. What about hosting family for Thanksgiving or Christmas? A lot of times all it takes is to have something else to plan or occupy the time you use to use planning for the wedding.

Me&Mr.T

It is definitely very understandable to feel this way. I remember feeling a little of this after our wedding, but like everyone has said, you put so much time into planning your wedding and then it is over so what do you do? Try to find a fun hobby that you and your DH can do together. There is a lot to look forward to. Honestly, I was thrilled to just settle down and be comfortable in my life so I was a little relieved when the wedding was over, but sad as well. You'll get there. It'll take some time.

jasonlovessara

I was so so upset after our wedding.... I still really don't know why but it was hard putting so much time into planning it then just to have it be over and it didn't help that there was negative things about it.  I remember talking to a friend just telling her that I was miserable and sobbing.  I am so sorry that you are going through this.  It was a hard transition for me.  I love married life now!!  ((HUGS))

J&G_BlueGLH

I agree, once the wedding is over, its like something is missing because we took so much time and effort to plan our wedding that its like a big part of us is missing afterwards.  I miss some of it too, but in a way Im glad I dont have all of that to do. We worked on remodeling our house before hand too, and we were BUSY!  Im glad now that I can come home to my DH ( we didnt live together until the night of the wedding) and enjoy our time together on our own now.  We still have things to work on at the house, and there is always something to do.  You'll get there, it just takes time.  I too love married life its just hard to believe how fast it has come and gone.. sometimes I have to think back and be like wow I thought about this for so long, it happened and now its over.. where did the time go?    Just wait we wont even think about this once we all have kids to worry about! 

mkerr09

I experienced this last month...but I found that crafting is a lot of fun and keeps me busy.  I like to read on the crafts board and then look-up people's blogs for inspiration. I have an older home so there's ALWAYS a project or 100 that I need to do so that occupies my time. I thought about trying to find a sewing class...I have no idea how to! You could try taking up a cooking class or a cake decorating class...those would be fun!

mrs_comer

I have felt this same way since our wedding.  It didn't help at all that we had to part ways with everyone almost immediately afterwards, and haven't seen anyone since!  The wedding was in Altoona, we live in Lebanon, my family lives in Altoona, DH's in Pittsburgh, and friends from everywhere but where we live.  We had to come back home the day after the wedding because of work.  So on top of all the post wedding blues, we have been quite lonely.  So I feel your pain

bonjourbelle05

Thanks ladies....I think just knowing this isn't unique to me makes me feel a little better.  I know I need to find something to take up the time....my job has become increasingly stressful this month, so it has been hard for me to have "non-work" stuff to do, but after reading the posts I think that might be part of the problem.....Thanks again you ladies are the best!!!