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Coincidence??
Background - I have 4 close girl friends back in college. One now lives in Japan, one in Canada, one in NY and the 54th one (let's call her P) unfortunately, passed away about 8 yrs ago. We believe it was due to drug overdose (she took an anti depressant i think). Back in school, she already had suicidal tendencies :-(.
Fast forward to now, so my 3 other friends and I had been sending messages with each other on FB for the last few months. One friend from Canada hasn't been on FB in a couple of months so finally, yesterday, she logged on and replied to our email thread. She said "we should really catch up..i wonder how we'll contact P...hmmm...i guess she's also busy.. hope all is well...take care....love u all". I thought she made a mistake or was kidding coz obviously, we can't get in touch with P!!! I replied "umm i don't want to contact/disturb P! she's been resting in peace!". This morning, I woke up with a message from my friend in Japan and she said she dreamt of P last night!!!! In her dream, P was smiling at her and then eventually passed away. She had the dream even before she even read our email messages which mentioned P!!! Just imagine how freaked out she was when she finally read our email thread and saw we were talking about P. Coincidence?? 
. Is this her way of saying she is still around, looking after us??? We all said a prayer for our friend P today. May she rest in peace 
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Re: Coincidence??
Wow, weird! What did your friend in Canada mean, like get in touch with her spiritually? She didn't forget your friend had passed away, right?
Well, do you think it's a coincidence or more than that? I wouldn't know what I would think.
One of my best friends from 8th-12th grade died in an accident a few years after we graduated HS. I dream of her every few years; in the dreams we're just hanging out at my house like we used to do all the time. The weird part (to me) is that we're always the same age in my dreams. It's not like me at 31 years old, talking to C as she was at 18.
Every time, I wake up and think "I should really call C". It's such a sad feeling when I realize that I can't do that. Aside from that moment, after the dreams I always feel calm and happy... it's like she's checking in with me to see what's up, and let me know she's okay, wherever she is.
EDIT: I guess my point is that, I do believe our friends can reach out to us (and maybe more than one of us!) after they are gone. And I like that thought!
Aww..yeah, I feel the same way!
I strongly believe this. I have a best friend from high school who passed away a couple years ago and I still see him in my dreams from time to time, but it's just hanging out and stuff and I see a big smile on his face. So whenever I wake up I just feel relaxed and happy and like to think that he is just checking in on me to say hi or let me know he is ok. It's a great feeling when it happens and makes me still keep him fresh in my thoughts and prayers
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that is crazy! and gave me goosebumps!
I definitely believe in lost loved ones looking over us & occasionally making their presence known.
I think that's really nice that you all said a prayer for P