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Can I get your opinion?
A while (years...) ago, when we were just dating, my husband cheated on me with some random girl (kissing, touching, no sex). This was way out of character for him and we were still pretty young (not that I am making excuses!) Anyway, we have since gotten married. I have forgiven him for the "incident", but not forgotton. Anyway, I am still very sensitive about the whole thing. This week he is out of town for a work trip. He called me last night to tell me that his coworkers and he went to a strip club. He said he felt really guilty about being there and left after 1 beer. He called me because he felt guilty. I am glad he called me, but I can't help but be angry. I don't have a major thing against strip clubs, but it bothers me that HE went. I guess I am just angry because I wish he would have not gone at all, out of respect for me. Am I just being overly sensitive here or would you be mad too?
Re: Can I get your opinion?
This is a tough subject. Some people think that regardless, you should trust your husband and as long as he is not cheating on you, then no biggie. I however, am not comfortable with the strip club issue at all. It is still sexual in nature and that my husband should have enough respect for me that he would not go. We had this discussion when his friend was trying to give me a hard time and telling me they were taking my husband to a strip club for his bachelor party. I knew my husband had no desire to go, but I was still concerned.
I think the fact that your husband felt guilty and called you because of that is a good sign. I would appreciate if my husband did that but still have a long discussion about why I would not feel comfortable with it and hope it never happened again.
October 11, 2008
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