Frequency

Paula051907

So one of the hot topics below kind of touched on a hot button for me.

"We only have sex twice a month?"

It really annoys me when couples freak out because they only have sex   fill in the blank  times a month/week.  I know it varies for each couple, but why is it bad if a couple only does it twice a month?

IMO, it's completely unrealistic to expect that if you had sex 4 times a week when dating/newly married, that anything less than this is bad.  Life changes.  People change (chemically, is what I mean,.. there might be times he/she isn't interested as much.)  A couple who used to only have sex twice a week never thinks its bad when they start having sex 3-4 times a week! LOL

Duffinger

My doctor brought up a good point.  As long as you're both okay with the frequency, it's often enough, regardless if it's 3x a day or 3x a year.  When/if one person starts to feel neglected (or "overworked" I guess) that's when there's a problem.

 

flyer1982

I completely agree with you! A lot of times when there is a change in frequency it's because of something going on in your life. Like I notice when I'm really tired and don't get much sleep I would much rather sleep then have sex. Or when I was on birth control I lost my sex drive. I didn't freak out because I knew I still loved MH the same!

Mrs.Graves51907

We have no certain frequency at all and it doesn't bother either of us.  I will say we have more sex now than we used to and thats not just because we are ttc its just working out that way.  Last month we did have sex the whole time because of the pregnancy and then miscarriage.  But we've had sex 5 times in the past week which is very unusual.  I think we were making up for lost time LOL!  It's just my opinion but if all you have in life to worry about is how much sex you are having than you must not have much of a life!