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Not at all excited.
My FI and I have been together for about five years. His family is entirely on the east coast while mine is on the west and so are we...
We're both 22. I've spent all of my holidays with my mom and dad, they are together in case the later part of this is confusing... FI has come with me to a few of them.
We travel to So. Cal to see my Dad's parents on Thanksgiving, and stay in Nor.Cal with my mom's side of the family.
Well FI's mom sort of guilt tripped me into heading East for Thanksgiving this year...saying some of his relatives aren't doing so great and I need to meet them now of I probably never will.
So we've bought the tickets and we're gonig. I've never not spent a big holiday with my parents, and I only see my Dad's side once or twice a year.
I know it's right to go, it would've been selfish if I didn't this year...but I just can't get myself excited. And I'm bummed about my mom, because we're really close.
Any suggestions on how I can cheer myself up?
Re: Not at all excited.
Forget-Me-Nots: Alaska State Flower
Don't dwell on it. It's only "fair" that he gets a holiday with his family, too.
Our families are in two separate locations, so we split holidays every year. It's something you're going to have to get used to if you're marrying him, so you can't let this bother you when it does come up.
I felt the same way last year when we spent the holidays with his family. My mom and I are also really close and she knew I was upset about it, but when we went to see my parents a couple days after Christmas she had the whole house set up like it was still Christmas day. We pretended the whole day, it was really fun! I know it wasn't the actual day but my parents were good sports about it. It might sound corny, but it helped!
Ditto. It sucks but it is not fair to him to spend every holiday with your family. We split holidays every year. Someone is upset no matter what we do but unless they are all coming to our house, it's not going to change.
Only you are in control of your happiness!
We don't spend it with any family. We see his family all year, and mine on occasion throughout the year of whom are in another state.
You'll have to work it out and maybe that is for you two not to be together for the holiday.