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How to politely decline...
Last week when we were moving, my BIL was nice enough to surprise us all with lunch. He went to McDonald's since it's right next to our new house and grabbed a Kids Meal for DD (with fries and a soda, not the apples and milk that we would prefer), a burger for DW and a fruit and yogurt parfait for me.
I appreciate his thought but I don't eat yogurt (milk and yogurt upset my stomach). I didn't know how to decline and didn't want to be rude so I ate it and dealt with the consequences. Since I'm vegetarian I know it was hard for him to figure out what to get for me.
How can I politely decline next time someone offers me something that I restrict from my diet? I plan to be vegan by the end of Novemeber so I'm sure I will have to start declining more often.
Re: How to politely decline...
Would it be possible to say, "thank you but, oh darn, I just ate... would you mind if I put this in the fridge for my lunch?" Or something like that. Then, you can pass it over to your DD later on or what ever.
And definmitely let people know you are going vegan... if it gets to the point where they are still unsure what to get you, then they might just be pretending not to know. Seriously, this happens.... tempting the vegan with a juicy cheezbrgr. I think if it gets to that point you can openly pass it on to your DD (or who ever) or just wait til they leave and trash it if you really have to.
I would say for your daughter's fries - just let it slide. For the soda and the yogurt, I would politely say something.
I would just say "Thanks so much for thinking of us, but we don't allow her to have soda. I'm sure she'll love the rest of the meal." And for the parfait "As much as I'd love to eat this, my stomach will make me pay for it later! Would you like to have it instead?"
It is a sticky situation, but especially when it comes to your health - I think it's appropriate to politely decline. My mom has lots of food allergies and has to do this often. It's taken the family (including me!) a while to catch on, because she's only realized some of these allergies recently (like to milk protein), but eventually everyone will figure it out - they won't ever figure it out if you don't let them know.
sahm ~ toddler breastfeeder ~ cloth diaperer ~ baby wearer